So my meth-addict niece who I had committed (mental illness/chemical dependency) last year about this time, is about 3 months pregnant and living in a group home.
She posted on facebook that she is back in relationship with the pathological liar/addict/mentally ill father.
Last year I really started letting go and letting God - he has provided her with food, shelter, government assistance, doctors, therapists, social workers.
I have not seen her for 6 weeks. I share a text from time to time, but I did a re-set on our relationship recently telling her I am not her mother, so I am not going to be either critical of her choices nor "nurturing" when she suffers the consequences of bad decisions.
So, what would have normally been a concern for me, today is simply a reaffirmation that I really must let go. She has everything she needs if she wants to start making good decisions. And she has plenty of rope to do the opposite. Her choice.
Thanks to the Grace of my HP, in the last 6 weeks I've been realizing what it is like to have a normal life. Normal problems, normal meals, normal interests - and it feels great. I am grateful for all the wonderful people who enter the professions that support her - it takes professionals! And it frees me to work on myself and my life. Things in proper perspective.
Thanks to all here at SR - you have been life savers and have been a big part of my healing.
Happy Independence Day