Sad tonight.
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Originally Posted by Iris1 
I have switched his bottles multiple times. His formula three times. He spit it all back up and screamed today,which made me feel guilty for trying a new formula. I don’t ever wanna hurt my baby.. I felt so bad.
I switched him back to his old formula and I’m hoping they put him on some meds tomorrow for the reflux. I’m so scared of him hurting,I’d take it all away if I could. I don’t wanna just give my child away. If a familymember would take him for a few weeks while I got my depression under control that would be ideal for me. I have had offers but,they’re not favorable situations so I refuse. I just want to be a good parent,but I need someone to help me until I get myself on meds and sorted out. It’s sad because I feel like I’m being forced to either be a functioning mother or,tocgove him up when I absolutely don’t want to do that. I love him I just wanna be the mom he needs me to be.
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Yes, what dandylion said, we are here for you.
You know, sometimes we can be really hard on ourselves and it may not even be warranted, we may even know that deep down but that doesn't stop it from happening, no matter what we say to ourselves.
Just know that this will pass, it takes time. Now that is hard to believe and it's also hard to be patient about, who wants to wait to feel better, to feel the happiness that probably used to come naturally to you. Well it can be rough but it will get better even slowly and one can learn a lot of patience in the meantime!
Sometimes that means just taking it one day or one hour or 5 minutes at a time. Sometimes things like routine can be helpful. Things like making a list of 3 things you will do for yourself today. Even simple stuff like, take a shower, file your nails and watch 1 funny show on TV or youtube or something else you enjoy (whether that's baking or some other hobby you have, even if it's just something small). Buy yourself some things to try that you don't normally do - even silly things like a paint by numbers kit at the dollar store or try knitting or crochet or grab a needlepoint kit. These types of activities can be calming.
Little by little you will start to see the joy come back in to your life.
You know, sometimes we can be really hard on ourselves and it may not even be warranted, we may even know that deep down but that doesn't stop it from happening, no matter what we say to ourselves.
Just know that this will pass, it takes time. Now that is hard to believe and it's also hard to be patient about, who wants to wait to feel better, to feel the happiness that probably used to come naturally to you. Well it can be rough but it will get better even slowly and one can learn a lot of patience in the meantime!
Sometimes that means just taking it one day or one hour or 5 minutes at a time. Sometimes things like routine can be helpful. Things like making a list of 3 things you will do for yourself today. Even simple stuff like, take a shower, file your nails and watch 1 funny show on TV or youtube or something else you enjoy (whether that's baking or some other hobby you have, even if it's just something small). Buy yourself some things to try that you don't normally do - even silly things like a paint by numbers kit at the dollar store or try knitting or crochet or grab a needlepoint kit. These types of activities can be calming.
Little by little you will start to see the joy come back in to your life.
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