Shellart

Looking for strength and guidance from my higher power rt now. I'm struggling with what I should do about my ex cocaine addict. He is in a rehabilitation facility in a different state. Been there going on 5 months. Seems to be doing well. He wants to try to start over with our relationship. Long story short. I'm in my own recovery myself (co dependency not drugs) love him dearly. I believe we could start a new on my terms and with my boundaries. My trust issues are HUGE. Is it possible to start over after 2 years of complete bliss and 2 years of complete hell?

SparkleKitty

Anything is possible, Shellart, but your own experience with a partner with an addiction is your best frame of reference. Only you can decide if you are ready to re-enter the relationship that got you into recovery in the first place. Has he expressed interest in that as well?

Shellart

Yes. Very much. He is remorseful of everything he has put me and my daughter thru. He professes his love for us and wants to build a new life together one day at a time. I can't help but wonder if it's to good to be true.

SparkleKitty

I think you need to listen to your instinct, even if it tells you something unpleasant. Whichever path you decide to pursue, you can take your time and make sure you're moving forward on a path your head and heart can agree upon.

AnvilheadII

1. he's still IN rehab
2. he has barely 5 months of recovery, in a protected environment
3. there are no guarantees he'll stay sober when out in the real world
4. you have a small precious daughter to protect
5. you have only had a few months apart to even begin to do your own healing and build a solid foundation based in reality not hopes and dreams

Shellart

Your right. Thank you for your insight.