New Beginnings
Nature Girl
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New Beginnings
New Beginnings
~The Language of Letting Go
Resentments are the blocks that hold us back from loving others and ourselves.
Resentments do not punish the other person; they punish us.
They become barriers to feeling good and enjoying life. They
prevent us from being in harmony with the world. Resentments
are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve
with forgiveness and letting go.
Letting go of resentments does not mean we allow the other
person to do anything to us that he or she wants. It means we
accept what happened in the past, and we set boundaries for
the future. We can let go of resentments and still have boundaries.
We try to see the good in the person or the good that
ultimately evolved from whatever incident we feel resentful
about. We try to see our part. Then we put the incident to
rest. Praying for those we resent helps. Asking God to take
our resentments from us helps too.
What better way to begin a New Year than by cleaning the
slate of the past, and entering this one free of resentments.
Higher Power, help me become ready to let go of my
resentments. Bring any resentment that is hidden within me,
and blocking me, to the surface. Show me what I need to do
to take care of myself by letting go of resentments, and then
help me do that.
~The Language of Letting Go
Resentments are the blocks that hold us back from loving others and ourselves.
Resentments do not punish the other person; they punish us.
They become barriers to feeling good and enjoying life. They
prevent us from being in harmony with the world. Resentments
are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve
with forgiveness and letting go.
Letting go of resentments does not mean we allow the other
person to do anything to us that he or she wants. It means we
accept what happened in the past, and we set boundaries for
the future. We can let go of resentments and still have boundaries.
We try to see the good in the person or the good that
ultimately evolved from whatever incident we feel resentful
about. We try to see our part. Then we put the incident to
rest. Praying for those we resent helps. Asking God to take
our resentments from us helps too.
What better way to begin a New Year than by cleaning the
slate of the past, and entering this one free of resentments.
Higher Power, help me become ready to let go of my
resentments. Bring any resentment that is hidden within me,
and blocking me, to the surface. Show me what I need to do
to take care of myself by letting go of resentments, and then
help me do that.
Nature Girl
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Join Date: Mar 2002
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After all these years of recovery, I still have to work hard to let go of resentments. They sneak back in when I think they have left for good and then I need to houseclean again to get rid of them.
As stated above, resentments hurt ME, not the person I resent. Often the issue that digs at me is long past and should have been left in the dust of the past a long time ago.
They say the antidote to resentments is forgiveness. Forgiveness relieves US of the burden and has very little to do with the person or event we are forgiving, it means we let go of the pain we attached to that which we resent.
This New Year I promise myself to not only revisit the steps, as I try to do each year, but to give quiet thought to those serenity breakers....like resentments.
Happy New Year, dear friends. May 2018 bring you all the blessings of recovery.
As stated above, resentments hurt ME, not the person I resent. Often the issue that digs at me is long past and should have been left in the dust of the past a long time ago.
They say the antidote to resentments is forgiveness. Forgiveness relieves US of the burden and has very little to do with the person or event we are forgiving, it means we let go of the pain we attached to that which we resent.
This New Year I promise myself to not only revisit the steps, as I try to do each year, but to give quiet thought to those serenity breakers....like resentments.
Happy New Year, dear friends. May 2018 bring you all the blessings of recovery.
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Thanks for sharing about Resentments, Ann.
Sigh.....I needed to read this tonight.......
But, as (we) know,
It's "One Day At A Time" - for -
Co-dependents, too.
Wishing you and all SR members serenity and joy in 2018!!!
Sigh.....I needed to read this tonight.......
But, as (we) know,
It's "One Day At A Time" - for -
Co-dependents, too.
Wishing you and all SR members serenity and joy in 2018!!!
Nature Girl
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Thank you and Happy New Year, AlcSis.
Reading inspirational writings helps me remain mindful of what I must do to keep my life balanced, happy and healthy. As my life changes, as all lives do, it is good to revisit some of my recovery work to see how it applies to my life today, and then I need to do more work to bring my recovery up to date.
Resentments will be my first area of focus. Who and what do I still resent? Why haven't I let go of it, what keeps me hanging on? Why did it sneak back when I thought it was long gone? And most importantly...What can I do to remove any resentments that cloud my life today?
Note that this is all about ME, not about blaming or shaming anyone else, the past is long gone. It's about ME hanging on to that which is not good for me, and what I can do to change "me". Funny how recovery works that way.
Prayer and meditation help, but I need to do more, to work through the pain of the issues so that I can finally put them to rest. I shall write, and write some more, just letting my mind go and writing whatever comes out, no matter how silly or foolish it sounds. Then I will look at it with more clarity, and see what snuck through my feelings and made it to paper.
Reading inspirational writings helps me remain mindful of what I must do to keep my life balanced, happy and healthy. As my life changes, as all lives do, it is good to revisit some of my recovery work to see how it applies to my life today, and then I need to do more work to bring my recovery up to date.
Resentments will be my first area of focus. Who and what do I still resent? Why haven't I let go of it, what keeps me hanging on? Why did it sneak back when I thought it was long gone? And most importantly...What can I do to remove any resentments that cloud my life today?
Note that this is all about ME, not about blaming or shaming anyone else, the past is long gone. It's about ME hanging on to that which is not good for me, and what I can do to change "me". Funny how recovery works that way.
Prayer and meditation help, but I need to do more, to work through the pain of the issues so that I can finally put them to rest. I shall write, and write some more, just letting my mind go and writing whatever comes out, no matter how silly or foolish it sounds. Then I will look at it with more clarity, and see what snuck through my feelings and made it to paper.
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