itsjustmeSal

I have been dealing with my husband's alcoholism for 20 years. The past 4 have been the worst. He was fired for drinking on the job and was not able to collect unemployment, he has beginning signs of cirrhosis (after ignoring 15 years of positive fatty liver results), his car is all banged up and his car insurance is up to 3000 a year. Amongst other things that have resulted from drinking. Our marriage is a disaster and most of these things listed are from alcohol. He says my love is so conditional. I can't have a conversation with him because he is very negative and gets argumentative, therefore it's only small talk when he's drinking. I love him so much but I can't be around him when he's intoxicated and it infuriates him. Am I doing the wrong thing by staying away from him?