Reality check needed. .. I can't believe anything is the logic
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Reality check needed. .. I can't believe anything is the logic
Haven't seen AW in 2 weeks. Heard from her in random texts off and on.
She tells me over text Thursday that she is going to have some moles removed that the doc thinks maybe be cancerous.
I had asked her many times in the past to have them looked at.
She asked that I not say anything to anyone till she new for sure.
Thing is I can't believe her. She hasn't offered any proof of anything. No nothing.
Her sobriety work she claims is completely not visable.
Today she comes to see the kids. Our daughter wants nothing to do with her.
AW says she talked to lots of people and she can't do anything to repair that. It's up to our daughter if she hates her or forgives her. That is true.
Proving something would go a heck of a long way.
Just venting! Thanks for listening
She tells me over text Thursday that she is going to have some moles removed that the doc thinks maybe be cancerous.
I had asked her many times in the past to have them looked at.
She asked that I not say anything to anyone till she new for sure.
Thing is I can't believe her. She hasn't offered any proof of anything. No nothing.
Her sobriety work she claims is completely not visable.
Today she comes to see the kids. Our daughter wants nothing to do with her.
AW says she talked to lots of people and she can't do anything to repair that. It's up to our daughter if she hates her or forgives her. That is true.
Proving something would go a heck of a long way.
Just venting! Thanks for listening
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Originally Posted by Ariesagain 
I'm confused, are you saying that if she did get her moles removed that would restore her credibility somewhat?
She wants me to talk to the kids about it. I can't do that without knowing the facts.
I don't mean to come across so random.
I just want facts. Something I can see.
I don't believe I will get that though
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Why would you worry the kids if it's nothing, especially since she doesn't live there now, right? So they wouldn't know if she went to have them removed? ( Assuming it's true.)
Sounds like a play for drama and sympathy. No, thank you. Your kids have enough to deal with, yes?
Sounds like a play for drama and sympathy. No, thank you. Your kids have enough to deal with, yes?
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Originally Posted by Ariesagain
Why would you worry the kids if it's nothing, especially since she doesn't live there now, right? So they wouldn't know if she went to have them removed? ( Assuming it's true.)
Sounds like a play for drama and sympathy. No, thank you. Your kids have enough to deal with, yes?
Sounds like a play for drama and sympathy. No, thank you. Your kids have enough to deal with, yes?
That's part of why I don't get it. She knows I won't trust her words. So what the heck?
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No logic with an active addict/alcoholic and you can go crazy trying to find any.
Ignore what she says...what does she do?
Someone here has a great thread about what real recovery looks like...I haven't found it yet but will keep looking and will post the link if I find it...
Sending you a hug.
Ignore what she says...what does she do?
Someone here has a great thread about what real recovery looks like...I haven't found it yet but will keep looking and will post the link if I find it...
Sending you a hug.
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Originally Posted by Ariesagain
No logic with an active addict/alcoholic and you can go crazy trying to find any.
Ignore what she says...what does she do?
Someone here has a great thread about what real recovery looks like...I haven't found it yet but will keep looking and will post the link if I find it...
Sending you a hug.
Ignore what she says...what does she do?
Someone here has a great thread about what real recovery looks like...I haven't found it yet but will keep looking and will post the link if I find it...
Sending you a hug.
I think we saw a couple attempts at recovery in the past. Looking back I question if some was just manipulation.
Until the divorce is done I feel like I can't completely go no contact . I have stopped contacting her. I only respond when she contacts me.
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