Ann

Aaron Isaiah is a lovely name, it means enlightened gift from God.

This baby will bring you a new life, new love, and a purpose for your life.

God bless you both.

Hugs

Sodevastated

Thank you dear Ann. I'm glad you like the name 😊My son will truly be my gift from God and keep me going.

God bless you too

Ariesagain

I hope you'll stay around and keep us updated, yes?

Sodevastated

Of course I will stay around with updates, and some day when I am stronger I hope I will be able to give others advice and strength the way you all do. Fantastic people 💖

PhoenixJ

Still checking in, still prayers - PJ

dandylion

sodevastated.....there are a lot of us who are waiting for the labor to begin!!
You are not alone....lol....

Please keep us updated.....(there are a lot of "mother hens", here).......

hope778

Yes, dandylion - I am anticipating the birth announcement!

Sodevastated - I absolutely agree with the advice to be open and honest with your doctor. They are healthcare professionals who are there to support all aspect of your health - mental health included. They care and can help. So, if depression lingers or worsens after baby, please do not feel ashamed. Hormones can take a toll. Come here and talk with us, ask for support from friends and family, but also ask for medical help. They will not leave you on your own.

I just can't wait for you to meet Aaron Isaiah!

Seren

Aaron Isaiah! What a wonderful name! What a blessing he will be

I hope you will talk to your ob about everything. You deserve this extra support right now

Praying and waiting for your miracle boy!

Sodevastated

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your care and prayers. It means the world to me. I know you to have issues of your own and I am thankful that you take your time to engage in me and my problems. God bless you all and I wish you all the best. I'll keep you updated on Aaron ❤

feeling-good

I hope the best for the delivery of Aaron and for you

teatreeoil007

How are you feeling today? I hope well.... you will soon discover the depth of your strength...bringing forth new life is an amazing thing that nothing can take away!!

Sunshine1234

Sending you so much love and strength. Your baby will be the most precious gift. Thinking of you❤️️❤️️❤️️

Sodevastated

Hi everyone,

Today is somewhat better. Your words give me comfort. But then I have this issue with my parents. I am staying with them now and will do so a while after my son is born. Mostly they are supportive but at times, as today they got agitated with me and my mother told me it's all my fault I ended up in this situation because I chose my "loser husband". She says that I am not the only one feeling bad, but that I have affected my whole family due to my sucky choice and that I am the one to blame. And then my mother starts ranting about how all my relatives and my friends have husbands and children but look at me, such a failure. In my mom's world you are successful only if you are married and have children ( she is very conservative ). However, you do not have to be happy in that marriage as long as you are married and it looks good from the outside. I already feel bad as it is, and yes, I am aware of that I was the one to chose my husband and that everything became messed up and maybe I am the one to blame for all of this. But still her words are killing me, because I already blame myself for everthing.

Sodevastated

Thank you for caring about me ❤💜❤

PhoenixJ

That sucks SD. It tells al lot about your mum. Your do not have to defend or explain yourself. Living in the same space does not give others the right to make others feel bad. She is no tthe boss of you. Support, prayers and positive (rainbows and unicorns) thought waves being sent across the waves, PJ

Sodevastated

Yeah, it really does suck. She really knows which buttons to push. She makes me feel like a bad person because of my choice. Thank you for your words. You really are a gift from above. I really appreciate that you care, knowing that you have a tough time too, but still you take time to care about me. You are a good person and I really hope things will get better for you too. I send prayers and big hug back to you. Take care dear Phoenix

aasharon90

I never went to an alanon meeting but I
know that it is similar to AA in that there
are steps and principles for those associated
to, married to the alcoholic or addict in
one way or another.

Those in al-anon can shed some light in
offering some good suggestions in how
to help you as you move forward in a
positive healthy way of life with your
new addition. Your own bundle of joy,
your own baby, child.

I believe alanons say that you did not
cause your spouses addiction. It is not
your fault for what happened. You didn't
cause it and your not the blame.

In learning some alanon program steps
it can help you so you don't have to blame
yourself for all that happened to your
spouse.

I along with others check in to support
you and to let you know we love and
care about you and your little one soon
to be.

Don't let anyone steal your joy. No One...!!!!

Sodevastated

I also believe that the principles of the meetings are pretty much the same. I would like to attend those meetings in order to move forward in life, and maybe I will learn and understand things in a better way. Maybe that will help me with my codependancy and to see the red flags when it comes to choosing friends, partners etc. Thank you for your suggestions, and again for caring ❤💞

Ariesagain

Oh, that's horrible. I know parents tend to say exactly the wrong thing when they're really worried sick about their children but no, just no. Like you're not dealing with enough?

You can always try looking her straight in the eye and saying, "Mom? I did what I thought was right at the time, just like you think you're doing right now. But having you criticize me is more than I can take right now." And then go upstairs and close the door.

My hope is that when Aaron Isaiah arrives she'll be too smitten to notice anything else?

Sending you a hug.

dandylion

Sodevastated......I hope that you will talk to your doctor (privately), before the birth...and tell everything that is going on. Tell about your mother's reaction and tell about how "down in the dumps" you have been feeling. Ask the doctor to see the hospital social worker......and you will be able to talk to her about your circu mstances and she can arrange for extra services that you could be eligible for.....
You will need all the supportive help that you can get....and you need to have these people on board to turn to if you feel the need....

(I worked in a woman's hospital...and, this is commonly done).....