Brutal
 

So let the psychological warfare begin!

Since my last post, my AH was served with the order of protection for our kids and myself, and he should be served with the divorce papers today. He has not attempted to contact me which has been a relief in a way. He has been transferring all of his craziness to my dad now which makes me feel horrible. My dad is keeping the lines of communication open with him in the hopes that he will finally decide to get help. Judging from his actions so far, I don't have high hopes of that.

After the protection order was served, he had a policeman escort him to the house. where he proceeded to trash the place and break things. The cop did nothing. Now he is posting brutal things about me on social media about how much of a liar I am and a deadbeat mom for keeping him away from his kids. I guess I shouldn't expect any better from him. But after 20 years together, he sure knows how to hurt me. I'm trying to stay positive and hope that the people who truly know me won't believe the lies. Just really hurtful, and I'm so struggling right now.

stay strong. do not engage and do not give his BS on social media a second thought. you need to look only to his ACTIONS....trashing the house and now trashing you. DO NOT ENGAGE. it would be best for your father to cease contact as well.....

Anyone that cares for you and knows him will know the truth. His rants only harm his reputation not yours.

People aren't stupid so you have nothing to worry about.

Well, a characteristic of sick person is a lack of restraint and self control. Let him post away and allow people to see him for what he is.

No contact, you or your family.

I am so sorry. Hugs.

I don't know that I agree with what others say about no contact- when I had a restraining order against my STBXH my dad blocked all of his emails. My mom didn't, and he sent her some crazy rants. But he hated my dad with a passion- I'm sure those emails would have proven really valuable in court (had I not been so idiotic as to drop my restraining order and come back for more abuse following his empty promises).

Definitely- do not engage!

Best wishes

I am not engaging him nor do I plan to, but right now I'm kinda glad he is still talking somewhat to my dad. My AH has been using the excuse that he has to use to help with the pain from a hernia (self diagnosed of course) among other issues. Well, today he went to the doctor for it. I'm sure it was just so he could try and make me look bad for not helping him when he is having "medical issues". He contacted my dad to ask if he could help him pay for a prescription. Turns out he doesn't have a hernia! He has an "infection in his groin". He has been complaining about this pain for months and now we find out that's what it is. Well then he went on one of his crazy rants and decided he didn't need help after all, but he is refusing to say what kind of infection he has. Now I get to go to the doctor to get tested for STDs, because I'm afraid that's what it is.

They get so angry about orders of protection!

I am right there with you! My XAH has contested the order I have. We have to go to a hearing on Tuesday to try and make it stick. Child services is involved and it is a complete mess. He has slandered me all over social media and is calling me every name in the book.

Stay strong and please keep coming back. This place has been such a great support for me.

I agree with the others. Do not engage.

I get him being angry at the situation even though he is the one that has caused it. What hurts the most is hearing all these people bash me for keeping him from his kids. It is so hard not to react to them! You just want to ask them if they would let their kids or grandkids hang out with an addict!! If he is so great, why isn't he staying at their house and smoking meth in their bathroom? Just makes me angry!! Thanks for letting me vent on here!