A Very Good Artilcle on Enabling and getting out of it
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A Very Good Artilcle on Enabling and getting out of it
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I have enabled for so long I thought it was just normal. I finally drew the line when I found out my wife commited adultry. Right now I have no idea how she is getting money and it worries me a lot, I may get back home from overseas and find out I moved. Nonetheless, thanks for the link to the article.
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If you could pay your monthly debts with WORDS, what idiot in their right
mind would pay with MONEY. If your monthly expenses were just suggestions---
like giving to a charity, wouldn't you prefer to spend the money on something else?
mind would pay with MONEY. If your monthly expenses were just suggestions---
like giving to a charity, wouldn't you prefer to spend the money on something else?
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Enabling an addict is never a loving act. It is neither wise nor helpful to simply put up with the status quo when that only continues the dysfunction. Instead, loved ones must do everything in their power to see that the addicts in their lives receive the help they need so they can begin making different choices.
By setting and maintaining appropriate boundaries with the addict in your life, you are demonstrating respect for yourself and love for your addicted loved one -- and this is exactly what's needed in order for recovery to have a chance.
By setting and maintaining appropriate boundaries with the addict in your life, you are demonstrating respect for yourself and love for your addicted loved one -- and this is exactly what's needed in order for recovery to have a chance.
What a wonderful, powerful article. Thank you so much for posting it here.
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I, too, have to live with that fact that my enabling helped nothing,
but only added to the burden of a tortured soul trying to escape the living
hell of addiction.
In my defense, I didn't know. But once I DID know, the option
to claim innocence was gone.
but only added to the burden of a tortured soul trying to escape the living
hell of addiction.
In my defense, I didn't know. But once I DID know, the option
to claim innocence was gone.
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