Twofish

Dear Mejo,
About your 14 yr old DD...I have a 15 yr old DS. They are TEENAGERS, expect these
kind of emotional, up, down and sideways kind of love. That's what they do.
She may seem angry, but it's not at you. She just wants to be exactly like her friends
exactly, the same...not different. But right now, it is different and she will learn to
adjust! She will!
Treasure those "selfie" moments together. Put her in the front seat right next to you.
Try to force yourself to attend just one parade, take a ton of pictures and plaster a huge
loving, mother smile on your face as she marches past you.
Let the love for your DD
be stronger and shine brighter than the hatred you have right now for your husband!
The energy being wasted on him truly isn't worth it! But you and your DD are!
Standing right next to you Dear Mejo, watching your DD march past, proud that her
mom attended and cheered her on!
Prayers of love and peace and here's a big gentle hug just for YOU!
TF

waitingforhope

Mejo he "hates" you because you are following through and surviving in a way he can't. He has to hate you. There isn't another logical option for him because then he'd have own his own behavior then and he'd have to accept that he is responsible for bringing this all down upon his family and himself. This is how he rationalizes. It's easier to make it someone else's fault. Imagine the shame and self hatred he must feel inside and then pity him. Let your sense of anger do it's work right now, but once you are ready to it go, you will know your done when you simply just feel indifferent. If you are going to hold onto one feeling for him, choose pity. If you haven't already, pick up the book "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. It explains a lot of what your asking yourself.