Whats' Worse:The Lies For Money Or What Is Done With It
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Whats' Worse:The Lies For Money Or What Is Done With It
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Setting aside the habit/abuse aside for a minute which is worse-the lies used to get money or what they are spending it on. This in particular if true seems like a codependency issue for the addict.
Among the things we found out over the years is that the addict was supposedly funneling or giving money to his ex gf & child that supposedly wasn't his. In the meantime not only does he owe people money big time their financial problems include utility shutoff and unable to drive for lack of insurance. We've been asked for rides and specific bills be paid-no...
If true this is just another thing that shows the selfishness of the addict because they keep crying poor mouth yet will only say they need the money. Found out the depths of other spending habits but they are simply outrageous poor choices on his part. But this I find most troubling for several reasons including that his ex who is another problem was never forced to deal with or go through child support proceedings with her other ex. From what I hear if he & ex are honest this would be a winner for her.
It's also troubling that he has kept regular contact with this ex because it shows he cannot let go of his past life. He also liked to boast he was a "father" to this child yet complain bitterly when forced to baby sit and would go dayS without seeing the kid. And if he wants to take the role of father you have to go all the way and not worry about recreational activity or buddies. He has to learn to rescue himself before someone else. So now there is more money he promised someone he cannot pay. Yet the alcohol and other stuff still flow. He also doesn't get how not being able to pay his bills is much of the money he gave his ex because never really thinks about the future. The future is now and he needs money because he couldn't make a clean break from the past.
Enough ranting.
Setting aside the habit/abuse aside for a minute which is worse-the lies used to get money or what they are spending it on. This in particular if true seems like a codependency issue for the addict.
Among the things we found out over the years is that the addict was supposedly funneling or giving money to his ex gf & child that supposedly wasn't his. In the meantime not only does he owe people money big time their financial problems include utility shutoff and unable to drive for lack of insurance. We've been asked for rides and specific bills be paid-no...
If true this is just another thing that shows the selfishness of the addict because they keep crying poor mouth yet will only say they need the money. Found out the depths of other spending habits but they are simply outrageous poor choices on his part. But this I find most troubling for several reasons including that his ex who is another problem was never forced to deal with or go through child support proceedings with her other ex. From what I hear if he & ex are honest this would be a winner for her.
It's also troubling that he has kept regular contact with this ex because it shows he cannot let go of his past life. He also liked to boast he was a "father" to this child yet complain bitterly when forced to baby sit and would go dayS without seeing the kid. And if he wants to take the role of father you have to go all the way and not worry about recreational activity or buddies. He has to learn to rescue himself before someone else. So now there is more money he promised someone he cannot pay. Yet the alcohol and other stuff still flow. He also doesn't get how not being able to pay his bills is much of the money he gave his ex because never really thinks about the future. The future is now and he needs money because he couldn't make a clean break from the past.
Enough ranting.
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