Leaving Room for Feelings
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Leaving Room for Feelings Friday, August 15, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Leaving Room for Feelings
We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings.
We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and sometimes explosive ones that need to be worked through.
By facing and working through these feelings we and others grow. In relationships, whether it is a love relationship, a friendship, a family relationship, or a close business relationship, people need room to have and work through their feelings.
Some call it "going through the process."
It is unreasonable to expect ourselves or others to not need time and room to work through feelings. We will be setting ourselves and our relationships up for failure if we do not allow this time and room in our life.
We need time to work through feelings. We need the space and permission to work through these feelings in the awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes messy way that people work through feelings.
This is life. This is growth. This is okay.
We can allow room for feelings. We can let people have time and permission to go through their feelings. We do not have to keep others or ourselves under such a tight rein. While we work through our feelings we do not have to expend unnecessary energy reacting to each feeling others or we have. We don't have to take all our feelings, and others' feelings, so seriously while others or we are in the process of working through them.
Let the feelings flow and trust where the flow is taking you.
I can set reasonable boundaries for behavior, and still leave room for a range of emotions.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Leaving Room for Feelings
We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings.
We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and sometimes explosive ones that need to be worked through.
By facing and working through these feelings we and others grow. In relationships, whether it is a love relationship, a friendship, a family relationship, or a close business relationship, people need room to have and work through their feelings.
Some call it "going through the process."
It is unreasonable to expect ourselves or others to not need time and room to work through feelings. We will be setting ourselves and our relationships up for failure if we do not allow this time and room in our life.
We need time to work through feelings. We need the space and permission to work through these feelings in the awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes messy way that people work through feelings.
This is life. This is growth. This is okay.
We can allow room for feelings. We can let people have time and permission to go through their feelings. We do not have to keep others or ourselves under such a tight rein. While we work through our feelings we do not have to expend unnecessary energy reacting to each feeling others or we have. We don't have to take all our feelings, and others' feelings, so seriously while others or we are in the process of working through them.
Let the feelings flow and trust where the flow is taking you.
I can set reasonable boundaries for behavior, and still leave room for a range of emotions.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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After years of daily sadness, fear, pain, frustration, anger and panic attacks, I learned to "stuff" my feelings because I simply could not bear the pain.
Recovery allowed me to slowly let them surface so that I could deal with them in a healthy healing way. It was still painful and it took time. I am still working through some of them today.
What I notice today is that I am very very "aware" of my feelings. I appreciate my happiness and the joy I find in the smallest things like a sunrise or nature.
And I notice the painful feelings of fear or anger or frustration...but today I no longer stuff them away. I may temporarily park them for a few hours while I cool down before I try to deal with them. That helps me see them clearly and calmly from a perspective of recovery.
It is important we learn to deal with our feelings, as they happen, and then let them go when they no longer serve us well.
Just wanted to share on that this morning. This reading really touched home with me.
Hugs
Recovery allowed me to slowly let them surface so that I could deal with them in a healthy healing way. It was still painful and it took time. I am still working through some of them today.
What I notice today is that I am very very "aware" of my feelings. I appreciate my happiness and the joy I find in the smallest things like a sunrise or nature.
And I notice the painful feelings of fear or anger or frustration...but today I no longer stuff them away. I may temporarily park them for a few hours while I cool down before I try to deal with them. That helps me see them clearly and calmly from a perspective of recovery.
It is important we learn to deal with our feelings, as they happen, and then let them go when they no longer serve us well.
Just wanted to share on that this morning. This reading really touched home with me.
Hugs
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