Love lost,numb - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Go Back   SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information >
Register Blogs FAQ Members List Calendar Arcade Mark Forums Read




Reply
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 05-10-2014, 09:55 AM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: May 2014
Posts: 9

Love lost,numb


My axbf left a recovery program today...he called me to pick him up but he had already used. I told him he could not come home. He called all morning until I took him his check. I told him I will no longer bail him out or help him manage his money. Since last July he has ruined every holiday with his addiction. I have recently learned that my trying to help him actually has not. I am working on no longer being codependant. We just started a business together, however his addiction was strong. He claimed he was working his steps...Before I saw him this morning I prayed to my God. Although it's not the answer I wanted I must live my life...so I type this feeling numb....the day before mother's day...again
dreadsgirl is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to dreadsgirl For This Useful Post:
Ann (05-14-2014), chicory (05-14-2014), desertgirl (05-10-2014), inpieces314 (05-10-2014), lablife (05-15-2014), Vale (05-15-2014)
Old 05-10-2014, 10:04 AM   #2 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: In the Middle
Posts: 631
Blog Entries: 1
It's not easy to say no more. It's not easy.

Good luck.
KeepinItReal is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to KeepinItReal For This Useful Post:
Ann (05-14-2014), chicory (05-14-2014), Vale (05-15-2014)
Old 05-10-2014, 10:39 AM   #3 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: May 2014
Posts: 9
Thank you KeepinitReal....no it is not
dreadsgirl is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to dreadsgirl For This Useful Post:
Ann (05-14-2014), chicory (05-14-2014), Vale (05-15-2014)
Old 05-10-2014, 11:46 AM   #4 (permalink)
Member
 
needingabreak's Avatar
 

Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Somewhere out there
Posts: 2,249
Hi dreads, I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is very hard to stop behaviors we have had for long periods of time but it can be done. A positive is you realize you were being codependent and wish to stop.
Because he left the program it shows his unwillingness to stop using. You need to do what is best for yourself and move forward. Can your business survive without his input? Personally I wouldn't have even brought him the check. Please keep coming here as you will find so much understanding, caring, supportive people who want to help. Don't ever give up. You can get through this. It's not easy but you can do it with many here supporting and guiding you, it will help so much! HUGS
needingabreak is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to needingabreak For This Useful Post:
Ann (05-14-2014), chicory (05-14-2014), KeepinItReal (05-14-2014), Vale (05-15-2014)
Old 05-14-2014, 08:43 AM   #5 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: May 2014
Posts: 9
Thank you @needingabreak....I only took the check because he called from his counselors office before my visit....but I even think he could have been lying then.....yes my business can survive without him but at this moment I don't have the drive to make it work.....I've become angry because I feel robbed......he was a different man when we met and he was clean......I feel angry because he is rude to my family and blames me/them for his relapse....I just listen when he talks.....not when he is rude but when he is thinking out loud....I spend slot of time on here and praying
dreadsgirl is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to dreadsgirl For This Useful Post:
Ann (05-14-2014), chicory (05-14-2014), Vale (05-15-2014)
Old 05-14-2014, 01:40 PM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 
chicory's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 12,453
Blog Entries: 1
Be strong, Dreadsgirl. You are a woman of faith. So can you turn it over to God, and move forward with YOUR life? Sounds like its been a long time since you felt peace.

hugs
chicory is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to chicory For This Useful Post:
Vale (05-15-2014)
Old 05-14-2014, 07:46 PM   #7 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: May 2014
Posts: 9
I am totally working on letting go and letting God.....
dreadsgirl is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to dreadsgirl For This Useful Post:
hopeful4 (05-14-2014), lablife (05-15-2014), Vale (05-15-2014)
Reply

Tags
codependant , emotions , love , recovery , rehab


Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 08:00 PM.