life begins at 40?
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life begins at 40?
Hi SR! So I'm 40 today. I have to admit this freaks me out a little, but I'm trying to focus on all the things I'm grateful for at this milestone. I have a great job, I'm financially comfortable, the writing I do for work has been well received and it looks like my book will be coming out through a major publisher in the next year or two. It's been two years since I broke up with AXBF. I remember two years ago this time, I was miserable, in the midst of one last bout of enabling him. I've gotten a lot of perspective since then, not only about him but also about all the unhealthy ways of relating to other people that I'd fallen into as a result of coping with a series of addicts in my life, starting with my parents. So even though I'm still single, I have hope that going forward my 40s will bring better, healthier relationships my way. It's too bad that my A sister and I aren't talking at the moment, but I am actually feeling totally OK with it! I think 40 is as good a time as any to allow myself to be OK no matter where things stand with the addicts in my life. Thanks to all of you for being there for me when I needed support! 
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Happy Birthday!!!
I loved my 40's and my 50's were codie years but now my 60's are the best years ever...so you have lots of good years ahead of you. Celebrate and have fun, make today as special as you are.
I loved my 40's and my 50's were codie years but now my 60's are the best years ever...so you have lots of good years ahead of you. Celebrate and have fun, make today as special as you are.
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Happy Birthday, jjj111!
I also turned 40 very recently, a month ago. I don't usually care about my birthdays or celebrate them, but that was special, because I was ~one month sober then, my first trial with recovery ever. I feel that if I manage to maintain my sobriety long term and make many more of the positive changes that I would like to in my life, the memory of my 40th b.day will be one of my fondest memories ever regarding the passage of time, like the starting point of a new life.
Sounds like you have a lot to be proud of and I hope you will be able to progress with those relationship issues...!
I also turned 40 very recently, a month ago. I don't usually care about my birthdays or celebrate them, but that was special, because I was ~one month sober then, my first trial with recovery ever. I feel that if I manage to maintain my sobriety long term and make many more of the positive changes that I would like to in my life, the memory of my 40th b.day will be one of my fondest memories ever regarding the passage of time, like the starting point of a new life.
Sounds like you have a lot to be proud of and I hope you will be able to progress with those relationship issues...!
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