MRSH4

For those who have been down this road (we are new here)....is it wrong to present two inpatient facilities for treatment options as the only options to be allowed back into our home? Honestly the only other option will be jail as his addiction to codeine and increasingly sneaky actions will lead him right there and then he will be turned out not having addressed any of his addictive behaviors...He does not think he has an issue but does know he needs help of some sort to get his life on track. He is extremely crafty and manipulative, will the assessment folks catch that?

BlueChair

We only gave my husband one option for inpatient facility. Found it with the help of a specialist and we all thought it was best. He didnt want to go but in the end he agreed and stayed for 3 months inpatient and 1 month outpatient, now he does counseling there. Correction, we both do counseling there, separately and together.

Txhelp

I don't think its wrong to present two separate inpatient facilities. I just like the idea of keeping it simple.

All active addicts are manipulative by the way. All of them!! The rehab will know exactly what behaviors addicts have......

Don't be surprised if your loved one isn't ready. Just make sure your boundaries are expressed and you follow through with them. Important!

MRSH4

Thank you both for your comments

starfish401

It's your home, and you set the boundaries. Even though you may struggle and have a hard time setting these boundaries with your loved one, it has to be done - and in my opinion it should be done sooner rather than later. If your loved one wants to continue to live in your house, they must follow your rules and that's that.

As far as presenting options for the facilities - I think that's great. This way your loved one can feel like he has some sort of say in the matter. He can look at the websites, compare the information, and see what feels like the "best fit" for him. I think it's good that you're presenting options and feel that your loved one should be involved in the process - it's his life after all.

As far as him being manipulative, the folks that work in treatment centers are professionals, and they are used to being lied to and manipulated. Many of the folks that work in treatment are former addicts and alcoholics, and they can catch even the best manipulators.

Keep posting and best of luck!