minimal contact: the other side

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Old 01-22-2014, 07:16 PM
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minimal contact: the other side

hey SR family. well, D has been gone a loooong time now and you know, it really does feel better. we are not No Contact by any means. I send 1-2 letters a week and he sends 1 letter a week. the freedom is outstanding. my recovery is mine. his recovery is his. I don't think we ever would have gotten any better had the state not separated us. We both are waaaay to codependent. I'm not where I want to be, but I'm not where I used to be and that's gotta count for something right!? I do have to admit I caught myself snooping on his profile page today to see if he has gotten into any trouble. it felt strangely like checking his pockets or snooping through his phone. why did I do that? I was looking for lies I guess.
well, it's a learning experience I guess. I wonder what I would have done with the info anyway... sent him and angry letter?? big whoop. hundreds and hundreds of angry texts never changed his behavior anyway.

well... just for today he is sober. seems like the only way he is ever sober is to be locked in a box....

thanks for letting me vent.
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Glad to hear you making progress for you!
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Glad your doing well!!
I found to really look foward to my hubs letters. It brings us closer. Makes it harder worrying what will happen if drugs comes back. I hate drugs!! Hate them!!
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Lily, how long is your husband locked up?
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Old 01-23-2014, 07:45 PM
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Lily, how long is your husband locked up?
the release dates are all over the place. the max date on the website is May 2016. the earliest I can see is November 2015

either way it seems like a lifetime
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