Feeling the temptation
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Detaching from someone you love is the hardest thing I have ever had to do..
then make it easier on yourself instead of harder. delete him off of everything. cut all ties. when you find yourself dwelling and ruminating, say STOP!!!!! and immediately engage in something else. take control of this. be sad, sure, but move forward. start to rebuild your self esteem so that NO ONE has this kind of power over you again....
love doesn't hurt this bad, even if things end badly. need and co-dependence DO cause hurt. because we come enmeshed with them, as if our arteries got all tangled up and exchanged. so when we DO pull away, it FEELS like we are being torn apart.
but you are not. being torn apart. wiggle your fingers, toes, rotate your head - everything still there? good.
then make it easier on yourself instead of harder. delete him off of everything. cut all ties. when you find yourself dwelling and ruminating, say STOP!!!!! and immediately engage in something else. take control of this. be sad, sure, but move forward. start to rebuild your self esteem so that NO ONE has this kind of power over you again....
love doesn't hurt this bad, even if things end badly. need and co-dependence DO cause hurt. because we come enmeshed with them, as if our arteries got all tangled up and exchanged. so when we DO pull away, it FEELS like we are being torn apart.
but you are not. being torn apart. wiggle your fingers, toes, rotate your head - everything still there? good.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII 
Detaching from someone you love is the hardest thing I have ever had to do..
then make it easier on yourself instead of harder. delete him off of everything. cut all ties. when you find yourself dwelling and ruminating, say STOP!!!!! and immediately engage in something else. take control of this. be sad, sure, but move forward. start to rebuild your self esteem so that NO ONE has this kind of power over you again....
love doesn't hurt this bad, even if things end badly. need and co-dependence DO cause hurt. because we come enmeshed with them, as if our arteries got all tangled up and exchanged. so when we DO pull away, it FEELS like we are being torn apart.
but you are not. being torn apart. wiggle your fingers, toes, rotate your head - everything still there? good.
then make it easier on yourself instead of harder. delete him off of everything. cut all ties. when you find yourself dwelling and ruminating, say STOP!!!!! and immediately engage in something else. take control of this. be sad, sure, but move forward. start to rebuild your self esteem so that NO ONE has this kind of power over you again....
love doesn't hurt this bad, even if things end badly. need and co-dependence DO cause hurt. because we come enmeshed with them, as if our arteries got all tangled up and exchanged. so when we DO pull away, it FEELS like we are being torn apart.
but you are not. being torn apart. wiggle your fingers, toes, rotate your head - everything still there? good.
Anvil,
I really appreciate you being hard. Love SHOULDN'T hurt this bad. Is this considered giving someone power over me? I assume that since he doesn't know I am feeling this way, it seems I have pretty good control of what's going on. Reality check. I don't. I put up a front because I don't want anyone to see me weak. Maybe that's why I come on here and my true emotions come out.
I'm grateful I found SR. I need to get my sh*t together.
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