Still making poor decisions from jail?
Still making poor decisions from jail?
So my AD called me from jail,this morning. She said she put in a request to meet with her abf who is also in jail. Her reasoning is that he is her codefendant on 2 cases she has pending. She said they encourage you to talk to your codefendant. I don't believe her. I told her it is not a wise decision, they are not good for each other and don't even think about carrying on some jailhouse romance. They're there for a reason!
Has anyone heard of this kind of thing? I think it's ridiculous! Is she really going to continue to make stupid decisions from jail? I will be there for her and support her but not if she's going to do crap like this.
Has anyone heard of this kind of thing? I think it's ridiculous! Is she really going to continue to make stupid decisions from jail? I will be there for her and support her but not if she's going to do crap like this.
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Location: Indiana, IL
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My son continues to make poor decisions in prison. He was, at one point, running up drug debts inside and writing to various women. Jail/prison is not always a addicts lowest point. It is a breeding ground for anti-social behavior. American prisons were once about rehabilitation but now it's about punishment.
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Pffbbbttt...sounds like malarkey to me. I cannot imagine this is something the courts, jails or attorneys would encourage. "Let's put the two of them together so they can get their stories straight....and while we are at it...let's record them as well. Yeah that's it!" This is very far fetched. I would love to hear from someone who can say definitively...but my guess is this is what she wants so she's going to try to sell it to you regardless. Thanks for the giggle.
It really is. But the most important thing in all this is how you act or react. Is she making your life seem unmanageable, are you obsessing over her actions and choices?
You can "lecture" and/or advise her until your blew in the face....it won't help a thing.
When I would listen and reacted to the crazy talk, I started feeling and acting crazy too. Many people here, along with Alanon gave me tools on how not to engage or cut the topic short.
Some example are -
"I am sorry you feel that way. "
"How Wonderful"
"Good for YOU"
"Well, there you go".
"Isn't that nice."
"Oh I so hope that works out for you"
Then I let the nonsense go.......
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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She has two attorneys? I debated weather or not to get my son an attorney. I decided to let him have the public defender. Let her feel the consequences but just know that addicts have a tremendous tolerance for pain. It is in God's hands now.
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