allthatsgood

I saw my son today and had a terrible feeling in my gut that he was on something. I said to him he didn't look well and within minutes he was out the door. I don't know how to handle this and need your help.

Lily1918

I just want to send you hugs.

love him just the same. I don't know what advice to give except to keep taking good care of you, and don't give him any money.

I'm sure someone will be along soon with more encouragement

LoveMeNow

I am so sorry (((allthatsgood))). You and your son are in my prayers.

I am not sure this is anything that you can say or do!

allthatsgood

Lily and LMN- thank you for your hugs and prayers. I'm feeling so low right now. I don't know if its a relapse or not. He lives on his own and has not asked for anything. I do t know if he walked out because he felt like I was accusing him or if he was tryi g to get away from the situation.

lizwig

I'm so sorry Allthatsgood, those gut feelings are so strong. I think I handled my son's last relapse totally wrong...but ultimately he had to choose what his next steps were going to be. He chose to go back out. If the situation ever presents itself again I think I would simply tell him I loved him, remind him if he needs help to please talk openly with me and PRAY. Pray that he stops the slide before it gets out of control and remind myself he's been clean before and has the tools to do it again. Big, massive hug to you. Time will reveal more...it always does, good or bad. Thinking of you. Xoxo

YouWillBe

In my experience with my daughter I've discovered that I'm hardly ever wrong when I think she's using.

As a mom, I think we just KNOW...deep down we know.

Tinks65

those gut feelings can suck the life right out of you. (((allthatsgood)))

No sense in dwelling on what you don't even know, it will only rob you of peace. If you must then remember,
as lizwig said... he has the tools to do it again. Thats good to remember rather than all the "awfulizing" we tend to want to do. I used to say that when my son relapsed I'd relapse right along with him. I have gotten stronger, and learned from each experience also right along with him.

One of my favorite quotes is

Men may spurn our appeals, reject our message, oppose our arguments, despise our persons - but they are helpless against our prayers.

I have found great strength in prayer it is the one thing I can always do and it always makes me feel better

allthatsgood

Just stand up and tell the truth. I don't want to be lied to any more. Been through that already.

Eve13

allthatsgood, we can't control what our loved ones do (as you know). And we can't make them tell us the truth, especially if they are not even honest with themselves. I've handled my son all wrong too, and will try and remember lizwig's wise advise that I love him and am here for him and keep him in my prayers. Hugs from this mama to you.