Surprise! Old boyfriend got in touch
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Surprise! Old boyfriend got in touch
Any man I ever was in a relationship with was an alcoholic or an addict.
Most were sober during our relationship.
Yesterday an old boyfriend got in touch with me through facebook. We were
together in 1996 I think. I was madly in love with him.
His family doesn't know where he is or whether he is alive or dead.
He has 2 beautiful children he doesn't see.
I was so happy to hear from him....but he said he is pretty much dying of
hep C. We only had a few minutes to talk. He has been clean for over 5
years.
He seems really desperate to talk to me. I am not sure if it's about making
amends or what. I even wondered if he'll ask me to donate part of my liver
(i doubt it). I'll call him back in the morning (it's 2 am right now) but it's
so hard to have a conversation with a 3 year old wanting all my
attention...
It was so strange to hear his voice. I actually expected not to recognize his voice on the phone, it has been so long...but of course I did. He talked like he was on a mission. I don't understand. I can only wait. So here I am waiting.
Most were sober during our relationship.
Yesterday an old boyfriend got in touch with me through facebook. We were
together in 1996 I think. I was madly in love with him.
His family doesn't know where he is or whether he is alive or dead.
He has 2 beautiful children he doesn't see.
I was so happy to hear from him....but he said he is pretty much dying of
hep C. We only had a few minutes to talk. He has been clean for over 5
years.
He seems really desperate to talk to me. I am not sure if it's about making
amends or what. I even wondered if he'll ask me to donate part of my liver
(i doubt it). I'll call him back in the morning (it's 2 am right now) but it's
so hard to have a conversation with a 3 year old wanting all my
attention...
It was so strange to hear his voice. I actually expected not to recognize his voice on the phone, it has been so long...but of course I did. He talked like he was on a mission. I don't understand. I can only wait. So here I am waiting.
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His family doesn't know where he is or whether he is alive or dead.
He has 2 beautiful children he doesn't see.
He has 2 beautiful children he doesn't see.
My son used to tell all his old girlfriends he had been clean 5 years or 5 months....don't know why he like the number 5...but most times he hadn't been clean 5 minutes. I'm not saying that is the case with your friend, I pray it is not, but please be careful about romanticizing what may not be as it seems.
Take this slow, what he says may or may not be what is true.
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You can't deny physics: water seeks its own level.
He's desperate to talk to you. How desperate are you to want a new male in your life to fill the void from the last one?
Who initiated giving phone numbers on FB?
27 years ago you were madly in love with him, you have a history of getting involved with addicts and alcoholics. Codie's love relationships, have a dire need to be in one.
As suggested go slow, you really don't know this person at all and in just this short period of hous being back in touch with him, there are a number of red flags.
He's desperate to talk to you. How desperate are you to want a new male in your life to fill the void from the last one?
Who initiated giving phone numbers on FB?
27 years ago you were madly in love with him, you have a history of getting involved with addicts and alcoholics. Codie's love relationships, have a dire need to be in one.
As suggested go slow, you really don't know this person at all and in just this short period of hous being back in touch with him, there are a number of red flags.
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Thank god he lives far away!
I probably would be in trouble if he didn't!
We talked for hours this morning...
It felt really good.
He talked about how he felt he had done me wrong in some ways.
and laughed at my feelings of guilt (what a relief!!)
We were homeless kids together then got a place but
didn't work and I couldn't deal with getting gov. assistance so I decided to leave
and go travel (hitchhike) around. He didn't have much choice, he couldn't pay rent
by himself so had to leave too. I felt so much guilt for how he ended up on the street
smoking crack. And how he lived on the street for years!!!
And he just laughed!! Of course it wasn't my fault ,I should have learned that in Alanon,
and yet I guess I really had not. Or not with the certainty I do now. I did not cause it.
I do think he is clean but don't know for sure and don't feel like I need to know.
One of the things we talked about was going from being homeless to having a regular life
and the difficulties involved in this change of lifestyle. Not something I really get to discuss.
I really enjoyed talking to him.
I probably would be in trouble if he didn't!
We talked for hours this morning...
It felt really good.
He talked about how he felt he had done me wrong in some ways.
and laughed at my feelings of guilt (what a relief!!)
We were homeless kids together then got a place but
didn't work and I couldn't deal with getting gov. assistance so I decided to leave
and go travel (hitchhike) around. He didn't have much choice, he couldn't pay rent
by himself so had to leave too. I felt so much guilt for how he ended up on the street
smoking crack. And how he lived on the street for years!!!
And he just laughed!! Of course it wasn't my fault ,I should have learned that in Alanon,
and yet I guess I really had not. Or not with the certainty I do now. I did not cause it.
I do think he is clean but don't know for sure and don't feel like I need to know.
One of the things we talked about was going from being homeless to having a regular life
and the difficulties involved in this change of lifestyle. Not something I really get to discuss.
I really enjoyed talking to him.
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