katie1121

I really hope they don't go south. I don't think I can handle another rehab or jail. since 2010 he has been home maybe 3 months. I mean I did four months in jail but that scared the crap out me and killed me that I could only see my daughter 2 hrs 2x a wk. im never gunna let that happen again. idk how he does it. I know its his addiction but... idk... I guess that's just me.

jjj111

Katie, have you thought what your boundaries will be? Do you feel comfortable with him using drugs in your house? If not, what will be the consequences if he does?

When I was dating an addict, I used to dread being without him. Eventually, his using got so bad that I had to distance myself from him, and I was so surprised to find that being without him was actually so much easier than being with him!

katie1121

everything is good so far. we actually went to a meeting last nite and he is at one right now and im watching our child

katie1121

you were right.........

AnvilheadII

if that means what I think it does, i'm sorry Katie. we're here for you.

Twofish

Hi Katie, I only suggest that you keep the emotions you are feeling in check. You're loved ones addictive voice will grab onto that and run with it. Stay calm, treat him like an adult, trust will be a big issue. I was so afraid that I would trigger my daughters addictive behavior, that I walked on egg shells for weeks. I tried as hard as I could not to let her see me cry. I loved her, I did set boundaries, went to as many meetings that I could find to help me understand addiction. Education helped a ton. But I did make mistakes. The urge to fix her was overwhelming, the urge to fix her financially went on and on. I had to let go and let her build her confidence back up. She was broken when she came home, still is. But she's sober, the outpt care was wonderful. Good luck on coming home day, watch those emotions and don't fall for the bait that might me offered. Everyone is different, every recovery is a little different. Wishing you a smooth homecoming, hugs, TF. I'm sorry I just noticed the dates Katie, I hope you are ok.

katie1121

deep breath

KeepinItReal

Katie - I hope your doing ok.
I know what your going through. You are not alone.

jjj111

Katie, never forget that you can make a change when you are ready! It might not be easy, but you CAN decide who gets to be in your life. We are here for you if you want to talk!! Hugs!

katie1121

thanks *hugs*