Unsure and confused
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Originally Posted by interrupted 
Let's examine the things that we *know* right now: your husband is a liar, he is trying to make you think you are crazy, and he is having an affair. Take the drugs out of the picture, is this acceptable behavior to you? Is this what you want your marriage to look like?
You need to figure out what you want for yourself, what will make you you happy and healthy. Because you are the only piece of this whole puzzle over which you have any control. Do something good for yourself today, even if it's just something small, you deserve it.
You need to figure out what you want for yourself, what will make you you happy and healthy. Because you are the only piece of this whole puzzle over which you have any control. Do something good for yourself today, even if it's just something small, you deserve it.
You have worked yourself to pieces trying to help this person.
When is your turn?
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My turn is NOW. I've gotten myself to a meeting, will be attending my first f2f nar-anon this Friday. Did al-anon last night. Detached and refused to engage on the topic of NYE today. Baby steps, baby steps.
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Courtjester I really cannot add anything else to what has already been said but wanted you to know I am so sorry you are going through this. I am glad you are going to meetings for yourself and hope you find strength and wisdom there to make the changes, whatever they will be, for your own happiness.
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I think Interrupted makes a very good point:
Would you accept lying and cheating and being shunted aside from a sober man? His addiction and/or so-called recovery sholdn't be an excuse or justification or make his behavior less accountable.
Would you accept lying and cheating and being shunted aside from a sober man? His addiction and/or so-called recovery sholdn't be an excuse or justification or make his behavior less accountable.
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