Big book 4th step
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Big book 4th step
My husband is in the middle of working on his fourth step? He's become very angry and has now asked for space and a break so he can focus on himself right now....is this normal when going through this step?
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Welcome to the Board.
Who knows? It's hard to say what's normal when you haven't met someone or you don't know them.
That being said, Step 4 is pretty damn hard if you're sincere about working the steps. Let's say for the sake of argument your AH is sincere. He's got to go through all the times he's been less than honorable with pretty much everyone in his life. Combine that with the physical challenges that present themselves when coming off drugs and/or alcohol, and I can't imagine he's a very happy camper at the moment.
What's going to be frustrating for you is this: you need to stay out of his way. In your own way, you're starting to recover, too. Which is why you're here. So, I encourage you to read the Sticky Notes on our homepage and read as many of the posts you can. Keep an open mind. Allow your husband the opportunity to work on his own recovery. And then keep the focus On You.
Again, Welcome to the Board. I'm glad you found us.
ZoSo
Who knows? It's hard to say what's normal when you haven't met someone or you don't know them.
That being said, Step 4 is pretty damn hard if you're sincere about working the steps. Let's say for the sake of argument your AH is sincere. He's got to go through all the times he's been less than honorable with pretty much everyone in his life. Combine that with the physical challenges that present themselves when coming off drugs and/or alcohol, and I can't imagine he's a very happy camper at the moment.
What's going to be frustrating for you is this: you need to stay out of his way. In your own way, you're starting to recover, too. Which is why you're here. So, I encourage you to read the Sticky Notes on our homepage and read as many of the posts you can. Keep an open mind. Allow your husband the opportunity to work on his own recovery. And then keep the focus On You.
Again, Welcome to the Board. I'm glad you found us.
ZoSo
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