OneNightAWeek

I have myself in a mess. I still have not told my husband that I have set up an appointment this week for both of us with a specialist. I was going to tell him while we were on our trip visiting family, but I never found the right moment. We had such a good time and everything seemed normal you know. Last night we were all sitting and talking and eating and laughing. It was getting late and I stood up and got dizzy. I mean things were spinning dizzy and I plopped back down. I don’t have a problem getting dizzy and it scared me. I started thinking it has to do something with being pregnant, and then I got scared and started crying. I ended up blurting out to all of them that I was expecting. Everyone was in shock including my husband and wanting to know why I didn’t tell him. I didn’t tell him because I was scared to tell him because he is using those drugs and I don’t know if I can even trust a word he says about them. I went to bed still dizzy, everyone telling me I had had too long of a day and if I felt worse they would take me to the hospital. I fell asleep and woke up not dizzy. Husband still not understanding why I didn’t tell him. Parents so excited about their first grandchild. I was certain I would go see this doctor even without my husband and now I am a mess and all over the place. When we left to go out of town I even thought I might try to attend a support meeting, but I didn’t do that either. Now Im an emotional mess and it is not because of him, it is because of me ! stupid stupid stupid me!

AnvilheadII

hey now, you are NOT stupid! it's completely understandable why you weren't ready yet to tell you cocaine using husband about the pregnancy. he's not exactly winning awards for Mr Reliable.

however, YOUR concern right now is you and the baby. time to get to the ob/gyn lickity split. that is your priority. the dizziness could be part of the hormone changes, possible anemia, low blood sugar...your doctor can help with suggestions, change in diet, vitamins.

your hubby needs to get over himself and focus on what is best for his family now. we shall maintain hope that he GETS it.

rest as much as you need. take care.

Latte

Not stupid and see your Dr. soon.

Drink tons of water and lie on your side. Tis the season for dehydration and being pregnant makes it so much worse.

Kindeyes

It does not serve any useful purpose to berate yourself that way.

I passed out constantly while pregnant. I have low blood pressure normally but when pregnant, it would drop and so would I.

Take it one day at a time.....take care of you (and the baby).....and time will reveal more.

Be gentle with yourself....your body is doing a very important job.

gentle hugs
ke

zoso77

Knock it off.

Respectfully,
ZoSo

Katiekate

Let me see.

Your husband is going on weekend, cocanine is it??? benders.

He has a wonderful , caring ,faithful, honest, wife, who loves him dearly, who he has put under tremedous stress, and your stupid????

I'm sorry, no offense meant, but who is stupid????

I'm thinking you have that stupid thing a little upside down.

I'm pretty secure in knowing that most here would agree with me.

I agree with Zo, knock it off

xo

Needingadvice1

Hey, congrats. Exciting news, even with all the drama. Your husbands feeling 'neglected' that you didn't tell him first. Well good job I say. Hopefully he'll step up now & get some help, realising how much damage he is causing. He can't tell you how to feel or what you should have done. You were just reacting to his recent behaviour.
You need to really try to look after yourself now & work on you! Maybe you should go to the dr/counscelllor by yourself this week & come home & tell him that you will be going together the following week. Drs orders. It sounds like some 'you' time will do you a world of good right now.
Remember you'll have those crazy pregnancy hormones pumping through your body now too

OneNightAWeek

This one had me laughing. You are so right ! I know Im not really stupid, but I am disappointed I didnt do what I had planned in talking to him.
It was my feelings and emotions getting in the way waiting for that perfect moment.

OneNightAWeek

You know I had trouble sleeping and was looking at replies and when I read this it like clicked. This is what im going to do this week. It will be a win win. Will take the pressure off me to confront him, and if I go ahead to the appointment then I can maybe get some answers that I am looking for, and get more comfortable. Then when i talk to him I will have more information and hopefully feel stronger. my challenge for myself will be to keep this appointment.

OneNightAWeek

Thank you. I had a little bit of dizziness yesterday but not like before. I guess I will need to call the doctors office.

zoso77

No such thing, I don't think, although I do understand where you're coming from.

Your health and the health of your baby come first. Remember that.

ZoSo

OneNightAWeek

Thank you ZoSo.

If you dont mind my asking, where did your user id come from was it a song, or a character? it sounds familiar but I cant figure it out. I keep thinking of Zorro the masked man with the sword, but I know that's not it !

zoso77

It is the symbol of one James Patrick Page, aka the lead guitarist of Led Zeppelin.

<---------- THIS GUY

OneNightAWeek

Right in front of my eyes, duh. LOL Your a musician at heart.