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Old 04-17-2013, 09:40 AM
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Surprise Surprise...

So I go downstairs this morning to check my phone, and there's 3 texts from my AXGF. Ostensibly sent out as a group text, it served as an announcement that she's getting married within a few weeks to the man she loves.

As I'm reading this, my brain recognizes it for what it is: the behavior of an addict/Borderline Personality, trying to provoke me into a response. Again.

Instead, as I did in December, I went to my phone carrier's website and blocked her number again. Then I went out to breakfast.

Think about it. She's so happy that she's getting married, she feels it entirely appropriate to make the sure the guy she f**ked over knows about it.

As I said to one of my buddies this morning:

Once they're crackers, they stay crispy.

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Once they're crackers, they stay crispy.
This is a keeper!

Wow. No one can tell the new guy what she is, this message would be a signal what evil exists underneath. I know this from my own hard knocks college.

EWWWWW. Icky.
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wow. who does that? i mean in general...send out a group TEXT about getting married?

breakfast sounds far more enjoyable!

LOVE the crackers line. that's a keeper for sure!
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Boy that is some prize pig he is getting. Glad you blocked her and glad you dodged that bullet.
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wow. who does that? i mean in general...send out a group TEXT about getting married?

breakfast sounds far more enjoyable!

LOVE the crackers line. that's a keeper for sure!
A Borderline does that, AnvilHead. An addict not in true recovery does that, too.

It is what it is. And I think it's funny as hell. Not only does she dump my arse via text message and with a picture of her and the new guy, not only does she confess with glee of being unfaithful on several occasions, she now tells me she's marrying this fool.

This is me being crushed. I'm just so, so hurt...really hurt...

...not...
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Old 04-17-2013, 10:27 AM
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You are SOOOOOO much better off, Zoso, and it's so great that you already KNOW this, because you're in such a great place mentally/emotionally!! You've moved on and there she is, still so desperately trying to get your attention. Good on you, Zoso - you continue to serve as a reminder/inspiration as to where I want to be in my recovery someday in the (hopefully!) not-so-distant future. And I love the 'crackers' line, too - made me bust out laughing!!
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i presume you won't be attending the nuptials??? LOL
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i presume you won't be attending the nuptials??? LOL
I may just show up to give the Groom my clinician's contact information and a bottle of scotch. He's going to need both.
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oh stop it, you're killin' me here!
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ZoZo...I'm so proud of you for recognizing this for exactly what it is! Good job! As my nanny used to say...."Good riddance to bad rubbish". Almost makes you feel sorry for the man taking the bullet you dodged....but hey....it's his path so why interfere, right? I get simple pleasure when I'm reminded of why the boundaries I've put in place are so necessary. Such validation. Smiling for you and glad you had a great breakfast....and yes..."once they are crackers they stay crispy" but only if they are sealed properly!
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Let's think of a great gift to send them!
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ZoZo...I'm so proud of you for recognizing this for exactly what it is! Good job! As my nanny used to say...."Good riddance to bad rubbish". Almost makes you feel sorry for the man taking the bullet you dodged....but hey....it's his path so why interfere, right? I get simple pleasure when I'm reminded of why the boundaries I've put in place are so necessary. Such validation. Smiling for you and glad you had a great breakfast....and yes..."once they are crackers they stay crispy" but only if they are sealed properly!
Actually, I don't feel sorry for him. If it's the same guy, he's an addict, too, that chose to get involved with someone who, at that moment in time, only had 10 months of clean time. This guy's 13th Stepping, big time.

But, whatever. I'm done grad school in eight days, and if my AXGF were still in the picture, I'm 100% certain I would not be where I am today. So, I'm thankful that she dumped my arse and proved once and for all that she's sicker than sick.
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Let's think of a great gift to send them!
I should send the guy a handwritten note, thanking him for taking her off my hands...
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No, not crispy- stale, bland, expired, crackers! Her tactics are old. You dodged that ring and personally I would want to go shake that guys hand and say hey, thanks for "expediting my jail sentence."

Are you at the finish line yet?
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No, not crispy- stale, bland, expired, crackers! Her tactics are old. You dodged that ring and personally I would want to go shake that guys hand and say hey, thanks for "expediting my jail sentence."

Are you at the finish line yet?
Hey, BnB...

Eight days. Have a project due in adaptive signals next Wednesday and an advanced electromagnetics final next Thursday. The latter promises to be hell. But then I'm done, and I walk on May 11.
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ewwwww . . . .

5000 Level Emag Final v. Playing Crazy Games with the Bytch.

You sure live in a world of Ugly Choices.

Yeah. I'd take the Emag Final for $150K starting salary.

You into commo applications?
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ewwwww . . . .

5000 Level Emag Final v. Playing Crazy Games with the Bytch.

You sure live in a world of Ugly Choices.

Yeah. I'd take the Emag Final for $150K starting salary.

You into commo applications?
I'm currently working in electromagnetic environmental effects, but my graduate work has been a combination of signal processing and RF, with some analog thrown in for good measure.
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I should send the guy a handwritten note, thanking him for taking her off my hands...
I was thinking a gun for him and bullets for her!

No, no, no, thats just wrong..., lol,


Maybe a bible is really the most appropriate gift.
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