mareahh

What type of changes will I notice that my loved one will go thru in a 12 step program?

How will I know they are being sincere?

zoso77

You won't know.

What you're going to have to accept is that uncertainty, and you're not going to be comfortable with it. That said, it is certain that if you pay attention to you, you will be OK regardless of whether he follows his program or not. Allow the addict the dignity to live their own life and make their own mistakes.

Best,
ZoSo

mareahh

Of course. I've never interfered with what he wants or doesn't want to do. I was just curious for what I should watch for you know? And I do worry about me all the time.

1newcreation

Hi,
Its tough to tell but you will just have to go w/ u're gut & look @ what he's doing, who he's hanging out with etc. Whether its NA or AA, the spiritual part of the program is honesty so if he's not that his fault, not u'res. You've done what u can do so just leave the rest to God

Ann

His actions and behaviour will tell you far more than his words.

Trust your instinct and work on your own recovery so that regardless of how he does, you can find peace.

Hugs

Mracoa

The 12 step program is for the addict. If they are ready, and they commit to the steps, it will most likely be noticeable from the outside. But only they will know if that is 'real change' or just a charade.

DavidG

Hmmm... I think the best way of telling is to do the 12 steps ourselves.

It is much easier to tell from the inside.

-D.