Sad update
I missed you and Vale and everyone lol, I have popped in and out a few times, I came I think last week for the meeting maybe the week before but it was just me and Lily, I have been in the hospital (just test) and doing 90 meetings in 90 days. Life is good
So glad to hear (((angiebear)))
Agreed,LMN.
We have a custom in a little club I belong to.
(involving an activity not considered terribly safe)
When we lose one of our members,we line up.....and in
unison toss over our left shoulder a shot glass full of
fine spirits whilst saying in unison:
"He wasn't the worst ****sucker I ever knew"
It is our way of showing our deepest respect and sorrow over the
loss of our dear,missed,and never to be forgotten brother.We call
it "the last insult"......but we all know in our hearts it is our
greatest salutation.Our way of saying---we are sorry you are gone,
but we are so grateful that you were here.
Here to share the times of our lives with us.
We have a custom in a little club I belong to.
(involving an activity not considered terribly safe)
When we lose one of our members,we line up.....and in
unison toss over our left shoulder a shot glass full of
fine spirits whilst saying in unison:
"He wasn't the worst ****sucker I ever knew"
It is our way of showing our deepest respect and sorrow over the
loss of our dear,missed,and never to be forgotten brother.We call
it "the last insult"......but we all know in our hearts it is our
greatest salutation.Our way of saying---we are sorry you are gone,
but we are so grateful that you were here.
Here to share the times of our lives with us.
Restoring myself to sanity
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Georgia
Posts: 1,018
(((((((Hugs))))) LMN... I've been in your shoes... I had to say goodbye to my dad when I was 24.. ( one of the hardest things I've ever done) and just recently said goodbye to my ex who struggled with his addiction the entire time I knew him.. Both were very painful..
Be good to yourself and take care of you... I remember Ann telling me a few months ago to look pain straight in the face and walk through it and you know I took that advice to heart.. Anytime I was having a rough day and just felt overwhelmed with sadness I remembered those words and just walked through the pain.. There is peace on the other side and I pray that you and your loved ones find it....
Be good to yourself and take care of you... I remember Ann telling me a few months ago to look pain straight in the face and walk through it and you know I took that advice to heart.. Anytime I was having a rough day and just felt overwhelmed with sadness I remembered those words and just walked through the pain.. There is peace on the other side and I pray that you and your loved ones find it....
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Join Date: Nov 2007
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This last time when abf asked me about Subs, I told him that I was way beyond thinking I knew what was best for him. He kept trying to get my opinion on treatment, and I said that he was a smart guy and could figure it out for himself. I did suggest that I thought he needed something more intensive in terms of treatment.
It sounds like you are doing a good job taking care of yourself. Sometimes, I have to repeatedly hand abf over to God. It is hard for me to let go, but I've gotten better at it.
I really believe that the addict has a path to follow. God has a direction for them. They may need to fall several times before they really embrace recovery. I also believe that God gave us free will, and our addicts deserve the same from us. It is hard to watch the person you love crashing and burning, but that is part of his path.
I am glad that you are going to visit your father. You are doing what you need to do. You are acknowledging that you can't control AH. Maybe, I. The long run, the space will help you both.
I'm sorry about your father. I have not gone through this with my own parents, but I went through it with abf's parents. It was very difficult and painful.
It sounds like you are doing a good job taking care of yourself. Sometimes, I have to repeatedly hand abf over to God. It is hard for me to let go, but I've gotten better at it.
I really believe that the addict has a path to follow. God has a direction for them. They may need to fall several times before they really embrace recovery. I also believe that God gave us free will, and our addicts deserve the same from us. It is hard to watch the person you love crashing and burning, but that is part of his path.
I am glad that you are going to visit your father. You are doing what you need to do. You are acknowledging that you can't control AH. Maybe, I. The long run, the space will help you both.
I'm sorry about your father. I have not gone through this with my own parents, but I went through it with abf's parents. It was very difficult and painful.
I'm sorry to hear about your husband, and your father. It sounds like you're handling all of this as good as can be expected, under the circumstances. It's weird sometimes to think back to how we might have responded to this type of event just a year or even six months ago. Your recovery is really shining, even though it must hurt so much, I hope your trip goes well.
LNM.....this is a lot for you to process all at once. More than anyone should have to face all at one time. I will keep you, your dear father, and your husband in my prayers.
You have grown so very much over the last few months in your own recovery process. I truly believe that your growth will help you face the difficulties with grace and strength--which you are already demonstrating.
I do believe that a profound low needs to happen in order for an addict to fully embrace recovery. No one can say what that profound low might be or how it might happen but I agree that it is a very individual thing......something that is done solo. I pray that your husband might have this experience sooner rather than later.
As for your dear father......there is no easy way to lose someone you love. Whether it's a sudden accident or slow death by disease.....none of it is easy. He is lucky to have such a dear daughter.
Please know that we will walk with you through the difficult times as well as the joyous times. You are never alone.
Please.....take care of you.
gentle hugs
ke
You have grown so very much over the last few months in your own recovery process. I truly believe that your growth will help you face the difficulties with grace and strength--which you are already demonstrating.
I do believe that a profound low needs to happen in order for an addict to fully embrace recovery. No one can say what that profound low might be or how it might happen but I agree that it is a very individual thing......something that is done solo. I pray that your husband might have this experience sooner rather than later.
As for your dear father......there is no easy way to lose someone you love. Whether it's a sudden accident or slow death by disease.....none of it is easy. He is lucky to have such a dear daughter.
Please know that we will walk with you through the difficult times as well as the joyous times. You are never alone.
Please.....take care of you.
gentle hugs
ke
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LMN- you have been such a dear friend and supporter to all here on SR. I just want to say im sorry for what you are going through. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I will light a candle for you tomorrow before work and ask God to help you through this difficult time.
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