Healthy Limits
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Healthy Limits
Wednesday, January 2, 2013
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Healthy Limits
Boundaries are vital to recovery. Having and setting healthy limits' is connected to all phases of recovery: growing in self esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to really love and value ourselves.
Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes dearer, so will our boundaries.
Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. We'll set a limit when we're ready, and not a moment before. So will others.
There's something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we're controlling others, but because we've changed.
Today, I will trust that I will learn, grow, and set the limits I need in my life at my own pace. This timing need only be right for me.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Healthy Limits
Boundaries are vital to recovery. Having and setting healthy limits' is connected to all phases of recovery: growing in self esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to really love and value ourselves.
Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes dearer, so will our boundaries.
Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. We'll set a limit when we're ready, and not a moment before. So will others.
There's something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we're controlling others, but because we've changed.
Today, I will trust that I will learn, grow, and set the limits I need in my life at my own pace. This timing need only be right for me.
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Originally Posted by LoveMeNow 
Wednesday, January 2, 2013
Things change, not because we're controlling others, but because we've changed.
Things change, not because we're controlling others, but because we've changed.
Thanks for sharing, LMN.
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LMN, hope you are feeling better!! My nephew was hospitalized with the flu and then my sister.
For the first time ever I went for the flu shot (can't spell vacination lol). Then next week I am going for the shingles shot.
Thanks for the post. It touches home for me. No one wants to cut off contact with a loved one and I had to reach NC with my son on my terms. Actually he is the one with NC with me!
Somehow he knew that this time I had reached my limit and I would not tolerate the verbal abuse or the constant need of money for food, yeah right.
If we do not wait for the right time, they know we will give in. They also when we mean it.
(((huggs and blessings for us all)))
For the first time ever I went for the flu shot (can't spell vacination lol). Then next week I am going for the shingles shot.
Thanks for the post. It touches home for me. No one wants to cut off contact with a loved one and I had to reach NC with my son on my terms. Actually he is the one with NC with me!
Somehow he knew that this time I had reached my limit and I would not tolerate the verbal abuse or the constant need of money for food, yeah right.
If we do not wait for the right time, they know we will give in. They also when we mean it.
(((huggs and blessings for us all)))
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