Piglet15

I was thinking today(maybe not the best thing). I was thinking about how I need to just move on , like come on it's not that hard ! Ha , but I think the reason why all the things about my moms addiction bother me now are because I have nothing else to distract me. When it was active , I had a million other things to worry about , and a year later there is nothing else to worry about or distract me from feeling emotions I could ignore then. Obviously right now my emotions are a little all over and later I will read this and say what in the world was I thinking ! ( so Ignore my rambling !). I was thinking though maybe if I didn't push everything off and felt some of the emotions it wouldn't be as big a deal when they come.Hugs ! Thanks for listening to me !
Piglet

Ann

Piglet, I found that when I focused on everyone else and their problems, I didn't have to look at myself...it was an escape as well as codependency.

When I began recovery, I didn't even know who "I" was anymore, other than my son's mother, my husband's wife, my mother's daughter...I had no identity that was not a reflection of other people in my life.

For me, getting busy with healthy things like meetings and taking walks and church, all helped me let go of trying to run everyone else's life and start living mine.

I hope you find some healthy outlets for yourself, and may your new year be filled with many blessings.

Hugs

dollydo

I think that Ann nailed it! We codies get so imersed in everyone elses problems, we lose ourselves.

GardenMama

Piglet, I have found that whenever I have pushed emotions down and not let myself feel them, they are more painful and take longer to work out. So yes, I agree with you that its good to feel them when they come, and you will be better off doing that in the long run. Take care.