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Growth
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Growth
Just as when we were children and grew out of favorite toys and clothes, we sometimes grow out of things as adults - people, jobs, and homes. This can be confusing. We may wonder why someone or something that was so special and important to us last year doesn't fit the same way in our life today. We may wonder why our feelings have changed.
When we were children, we may have tried to fit an outgrown article of clothing on to our body. Now, as adults, we may go through a time of trying to force fit attitudes that we have outgrown. We may need to do this to give ourselves time to realize the truth. What worked last year, what was so important and special to us in times past, doesn't work anymore because we've changed. We've grown.
We can accept this as a valid and important part of recovery. We can let ourselves go through experimentation and grief as we struggle to make something fit, trying to figure out if indeed it no longer fits, and why. We can explore our feelings and thoughts around what has happened.
Then, we can put last year's toys away and make room for the new.
Today, I will let last year's toys be what they were: last year's toys. I will remember them with fondness for the part they played in my life. Then, I will put them away and make room for the new.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Growth
Just as when we were children and grew out of favorite toys and clothes, we sometimes grow out of things as adults - people, jobs, and homes. This can be confusing. We may wonder why someone or something that was so special and important to us last year doesn't fit the same way in our life today. We may wonder why our feelings have changed.
When we were children, we may have tried to fit an outgrown article of clothing on to our body. Now, as adults, we may go through a time of trying to force fit attitudes that we have outgrown. We may need to do this to give ourselves time to realize the truth. What worked last year, what was so important and special to us in times past, doesn't work anymore because we've changed. We've grown.
We can accept this as a valid and important part of recovery. We can let ourselves go through experimentation and grief as we struggle to make something fit, trying to figure out if indeed it no longer fits, and why. We can explore our feelings and thoughts around what has happened.
Then, we can put last year's toys away and make room for the new.
Today, I will let last year's toys be what they were: last year's toys. I will remember them with fondness for the part they played in my life. Then, I will put them away and make room for the new.
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I love this post....making room for the new, putting the old toys away. Uggghhhh. I keep trying but somehow my RXHA always creeps back into my life causing me to react in such emotional ways. I want to be done with these feelings and move on......he sucks me in. I know it's because I haven't truly let go, let go of the dream the expectation I had for our life. I keep telling myself to move on but I create this image of how wonderful his life now is blah blah blah. When really my life is blessed....no longer living in an unhealthy marriage, new adorable home, amazing career, 3 beautiful happy healthy children. All of which he has no real part of...He recently was arrested for possession of narcotics......really? Why do I think his life is sooo great! He also has a new gf....this is the most difficult thing for me to deal with. I know in my mind the truth but my heart hasn't quite caught up.... LMN posted why dont people post or come back......for me I feel I may not really have anything important to offer....I am still stuck, sad, getting up everyday hoping this will be my day and the feelings will be gone.
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