codependent or not?
 

Another thought came to my mind today... how do you distinguish between being co-dependent or not???

Codependency (or codependence, interdependency ) is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (as in an addiction to alcohol or heroin); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of or control of another.[1] It also often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[2] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.[2] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns.[2] Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.

Take some time to read cynical one's blogs and the stickeys. Codependent No More by Melodie Beattie is a good starting point.

My definition my my codependency is that it is a disease of ego, my ego.

The more I obsessed about and tried to fix my daughter the more my own emotional wellbeing became dependent on what she did or not. Absolute insanity.