eveleivibe

Erica you will probably never figure him out. Addict or not i think its impossible to figure out another human being. This is difficult for you as they are your children's father. Fortunately for me I never have to see my child's father so don't have this issue so i can't fully understand how that would feel.
Best suggestion i can give is to try not figuring him out n concentrate on you n making you happy - easier said that done.
Think of it this way is he sitting there trying to figure you out or thinking how you are feeling?
Hope that helps a bit xxx

outtolunch

That's what lawyers are for.

FindingErica

Yep, no contact it is going to be. He just called to tell me he was praying last night and saw our daughter- the one that died at birth in heaven, and she looked like me. He said she was a blonde, like me and none of our three living children are blondes. He thought that was awesome but it was very upsetting for me.

Then he had another awesome idea. How about if instead of paying me all the child support, he puts half in savings for me and the kids to move to Dallas. I said, I havent consented to moving and how about if you give me all the chld support and I save my own money if I choose to move.

eveleivibe

Erica thats so sad about your daughter. Im so very sorry that you had to go through that.
I think that was very insensitive of him n that he needs serious help.
Try to surround yourself with positive energy n the no contact sounds like a good idea.
You're in my thoughts. Xxx

LoveMeNow

Yes, active addicts make terrible parents!!

story74

I almost started laughing at "happiest ever in my life" GWAD! My x said the same thing to me deep in his addiction. When this comment was said to me I was furious. I thought how dare he say this to me when he knows how much pain I am in and hasn't seen his son in 3 months! Anyways, trust your gut. Something isn't right. Hang in there mama!

FindingErica

Yea, my Spidey senses are tingling. After 6 weeks of anger and bitterness, but paying support. Now he is all Mr Chatty with all kinds of big ideas and visions and grandiose mission. But no support checks. Wonder what they are paying for. I make less than him and have the three kids, but I am solvent right now. Of course I have to file bankruptcy to stay that way, or one day he will up and stop paying support again and leave me to deal with the joint debt. The man can not manage money. Anyway, something doesn't feel right, the change of mood and behavior was too rapid.