LoveMeNow

Some women need the attention from any man, glad to hear you are not one of them!

allforcnm

Hi Kyles,

Just wanted to comment on what you said about him being encouraged not to be in a relationship with anyone during that first year. There have been some really good posts on the F&F Alcoholics forum with people asking that question, and it appears that AA / NA officially do not say this. They suggest a person make no changes in their personal lives during that first year. So if you were a couple, then they would not suggest that he end that relationship unless it was strongly unhealthy for him (like you were an active addict and endangering him). However, it appears that a lot of individual people (sponsors) believe it is not good and do try to guide people into their theory of no relationships based solely on the influence they have.
I know you have nothing to do (LOL Baby Shower tomorrow) so I will give you more to read:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...eed-help.html?

LoveMeNow

A sponsor doesn't influence anyone about their personal life. Their focus is on recovery!

Anyway, Kyles - I am glad to know you wont be needing another man to fill the void in your life and you understand what a blessing a baby can be. Born or unborn!!

kyles

I will check that out, allforcnm, thanks!

kyles

Speaking of sponsors, I mentioned before that my bf now has this person who is acting as a sponsor now and was maybe going to be only temporary, but now he may become his actual sponsor. He told me a lot about the person and it sounds like he could be a good match, so I hope that will be good for my bf and that he'll continue to be open about it. I know I can't influence whether or not he actual listens to the guy, but I hope it works out.

No, if I weren't with my bf, I think I'd enjoy being by myself for a while. I hope that doesn't have to happen though. Anyway, we have a hospital tour on Sunday. I'm really excited to finally meet my baby, even though I'm completely terrified at the same time. I never thought I'd feel positive about any aspect of this, but I've reached the point where I can accept that I can't change what's happened and I'm looking forward to having my baby here and caring for him/her.

kyles

cynical one, that does make sense and I understand better now. I do know that it has been suggested (not necessarily by professionals like his counselors or anything) that he not be in a relationship right now, even though these people know that this is not a new relationship and that he's having a child with me. I know one person told him due to our ages it'd be easier to just break up with me, like it wasn't a serious relationship and wasn't worth it because we're young. Anyway, it's not like he agrees with those people so it doesn't bother me. I just found it odd that they would try to convince him of it and claim that that was the norm.