Control Vs. Trust - Language of Letting Go
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Control Vs. Trust - Language of Letting Go
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Controlling Versus Trust
There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living that I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get some order into what felt overwhelming. I wanted to feel like I was in control.
—Anonymous
Controlling is a direct response to our fear, panic, and sense of helplessness. It is a direct response to feeling overwhelmed, and to distrust.
We may not trust ourselves, our Higher Power, the Plan, the Universe, or the process of life. Instead of trusting, we revert to control.
We can approach this need to control by dealing with our fear. We deal with fear by trusting - ourselves, our Higher Power, the love and support of the Universe, the Plan, and this process we call life and recovery.
We can trust that when things don't work out the way we want, God has something better planned.
We can trust ourselves to get where we need to go, say what we need to say, do what we need to do, know what we need to know, be who we need to be, and become all we can become, when we are intended to do that, when we are ready, and when the time is right.
We can trust our Higher Power and the Universe to give us all the direction we need.
We can trust ourselves to listen, and respond, accordingly.
We can trust that all we need on this journey shall come to us. We will not get all we need for the entire journey today. We shall receive today's supplies today, and tomorrow's supplies tomorrow. We were never intended to carry supplies for the entire journey. The burden would be too heavy, and the way was intended to be light.
Trust in yourself. We do not have to plan, control, and schedule all things. The schedule and plan have been written. All we need to do is show up.
The way will become clear and the supplies will be amply and clearly provided, one day at a time.
Trust, my friend, in today.
Today, I will trust that I will receive all I need to get me through today. I will trust that the same shall happen tomorrow.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Controlling Versus Trust
There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living that I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get some order into what felt overwhelming. I wanted to feel like I was in control.
—Anonymous
Controlling is a direct response to our fear, panic, and sense of helplessness. It is a direct response to feeling overwhelmed, and to distrust.
We may not trust ourselves, our Higher Power, the Plan, the Universe, or the process of life. Instead of trusting, we revert to control.
We can approach this need to control by dealing with our fear. We deal with fear by trusting - ourselves, our Higher Power, the love and support of the Universe, the Plan, and this process we call life and recovery.
We can trust that when things don't work out the way we want, God has something better planned.
We can trust ourselves to get where we need to go, say what we need to say, do what we need to do, know what we need to know, be who we need to be, and become all we can become, when we are intended to do that, when we are ready, and when the time is right.
We can trust our Higher Power and the Universe to give us all the direction we need.
We can trust ourselves to listen, and respond, accordingly.
We can trust that all we need on this journey shall come to us. We will not get all we need for the entire journey today. We shall receive today's supplies today, and tomorrow's supplies tomorrow. We were never intended to carry supplies for the entire journey. The burden would be too heavy, and the way was intended to be light.
Trust in yourself. We do not have to plan, control, and schedule all things. The schedule and plan have been written. All we need to do is show up.
The way will become clear and the supplies will be amply and clearly provided, one day at a time.
Trust, my friend, in today.
Today, I will trust that I will receive all I need to get me through today. I will trust that the same shall happen tomorrow.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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I remember a time when my life was so overwhelming and out of control that I felt like if I didn't gain control I would surely lose my mind.
I tried to control my son's addiction and learned that it wasn't mine to control.
I tried to control those around me, to agree with everything I thought...and I learned that my thoughts reflected the sickness in my soul.
I tried to control my time and learned that the world did not run on my timetable.
I tried to control God through my prayers and I learned that God has a much bigger plan for my life...and that it was a good plan, if I would just let Him lead.
Today I know that the more I try to control that which is not mine to control...what others think of me, how others behave, what others say behind my back and what others choose for their lives...the more I start spinning again because control is a futile illusion.
Today I am grateful to give up control to my Higher Power, whom I choose to call God. I have learned that life will lead me to where I am supposed to go and I read the map less and enjoy the journey more.
I love this line...
Just for today I shall show up and let life happen...it always does and I have learned to trust life and all the adventures it brings.
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I tried to control my son's addiction and learned that it wasn't mine to control.
I tried to control those around me, to agree with everything I thought...and I learned that my thoughts reflected the sickness in my soul.
I tried to control my time and learned that the world did not run on my timetable.
I tried to control God through my prayers and I learned that God has a much bigger plan for my life...and that it was a good plan, if I would just let Him lead.
Today I know that the more I try to control that which is not mine to control...what others think of me, how others behave, what others say behind my back and what others choose for their lives...the more I start spinning again because control is a futile illusion.
Today I am grateful to give up control to my Higher Power, whom I choose to call God. I have learned that life will lead me to where I am supposed to go and I read the map less and enjoy the journey more.
I love this line...
Trust in yourself. We do not have to plan, control, and schedule all things. The schedule and plan have been written. All we need to do is show up.
Hugs
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I will try to let the wise message Ann posted set the tone for my Monday morning, the beginning of another very busy work week that I must admit I mostly dread.
Lately, when in the car commuting, I often keep the radio off and try to keep my thoughts light and positive. I also spend time praying. This does give comfort and makes some difference in how I cope throughout the week.
Thank you, Ann.
Lately, when in the car commuting, I often keep the radio off and try to keep my thoughts light and positive. I also spend time praying. This does give comfort and makes some difference in how I cope throughout the week.
Thank you, Ann.
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