rsk

I am very new to recovery but I just wanted to share the things that I have now come to accept. Even though it may not be hard for others to grasp, I have come a long way from what I use to think/believe/know. I just wanted to share because it is true that with education,support,meetings,and time...the light begins to shine back in your mind and heart.

-No one has the right to hurt me,bring me down, or hold me hostage.
Manipulation is not acceptable.
-I have absolutely no control over an addict.
-I have let my profession interfere in my personal life.
-No matter how beautiful,charming,promising,and believable an addict not in recovery may be...bottom line is they still are an addict that may or may not chose recovery- for themselves.
-An addict consists of many emotions and behaviors that may never be understood.
-Being there to support someone doesn't make you a bad person.Repeatedly having to be the supporter is a red flag to watch for.
-Addicts are not the only ones that need love and support.
- It is ok to not wanna ride the roller coaster anymore.

johnnamjh

It is very inspiring and helpful for you to share this. I'm really trying to truly accept these for sure:

-I have absolutely no control over an addict.

-No matter how beautiful,charming,promising,and believable an addict not in recovery may be...bottom line is they still are an addict that may or may not chose recovery- for themselves.

Ann

You may be new to recovery, but you are a fast learner because these very lessons took me much longer to grasp.

Stick around, the newcomers can learn from you too.

Hugs

dollydo

Great post,thank you, it is amazing how different everything looks when one removes their rose colored glasses.

rsk

Thank you ladies.

I just post because I want to let others know that I have been struggling with a bad cycle- within my own mind and the struggle does lesson with time.

I use to think- Drugs addicts are to be feared and avoided at all costs.

I then fell in love with one- Drug addicts are not all bad and my addict will change because he does love me and does want a future. I need to be stronger and support the person that I love.
Then- I saw how much heartache the addict brings but still I had the "hope" because I am "strong enough to endure this.
Then- Reality hits, no I can no longer take the pain. It is too overwhelming and it is no longer ok.
Then- I began to ask myself, what are you going to do to fix what is now broken within yourself.

I have been stubborn and not in reality for a long time. Love may not cure the addict but it will cure myself.

LoveMeNow

Love may not cure the addict but it will cure myself.


Great post!!