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LoveMeNow 09-29-2012 06:32 PM

Had a fight with him....
 
I had a fight with my husband this afternoon. He has no concept of conflict resolution. He can fight dirty - but I used to also. As I am changing and growing, I feel different, somewhat detached, somewhat disgusted and somewhat stronger.

I had an event to go to and he wanted to come. He was playing softball earlier in the afternoon and he knew I was leaving at 5:30. Before he left for softball, we had the argument. He said something about me being so spoiled and so selfish and I looked right at him and said "I really don't care what you think about me. What you think or say does not define who I am, nor does it define how I feel about ME!!!"

He wasn't back by 5:20, he would still need to shower, etc, so I left without him. I had a great time, saw people I haven't seen in a while and felt very loved and missed. No one even asked about him, lol!!

He has tried texting me and calling me to apologize and I have not responded. My boundary is "I will not be defined by him or anyone else."

Whoa-oa-oa! I feel good, I knew that I would, now
I feel good, I knew that I would, now
So good, so good!!

(how many people will have that song stuck in there head now, lol!

Supersarah 09-30-2012 06:28 AM

You go girl!!!!


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