Name 1 thing you learned today about Recovery or about YOU!
Nature Girl
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
Worry doesn't change the outcome and is a wasted emotion that serves me no purpose.
The difference between a good day and a bad day is about 2 days.
Life takes me to where I am supposed to go, I trust that today and let myself be led.
The difference between a good day and a bad day is about 2 days.
Life takes me to where I am supposed to go, I trust that today and let myself be led.
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Posts: 528
Originally Posted by LoveMeNot 
I love this one!
What you think of me is none of my business!!
What you think of me is none of my business!!
I don't have to accept or even consider another's opinion of me, especially when not delivered in love or genuine concern.
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Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 165
always trust my head and my gut only....my heart is an idiot.
don't compromise my self respect and dignity so that he won't leave.
if he doesnt want to be here...let him go.
love is not enough...at least not for me.
no contact = no new hurts
silence speaks volumes
don't compromise my self respect and dignity so that he won't leave.
if he doesnt want to be here...let him go.
love is not enough...at least not for me.
no contact = no new hurts
silence speaks volumes
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: USA
Posts: 398
Take it one day at a time.
Or even better, someone on these threads suggested taking it one moment at a time. One of their examples was something like this- I'm driving with my kids in the car and right now I'll just worry about keeping them safe.
This has really helped me not become so overwhelmed.
Or even better, someone on these threads suggested taking it one moment at a time. One of their examples was something like this- I'm driving with my kids in the car and right now I'll just worry about keeping them safe.
This has really helped me not become so overwhelmed.
Getting there!!
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 5,750
From Untangling Relationships -
Rescuing is an attempt to meet the codependent's need for identity - they need to be needed.
Codependents expect others to make them happy.
Codependent people who go through recovery are always stunned at how controlling and manipulative (selfish) they have been. Obsession is love to them, and so if they can "fix" someone. they are obsessed with them and feel hurt or rejected if the obsessive attention is not returned!
(Powerful words for me!!)
Rescuing is an attempt to meet the codependent's need for identity - they need to be needed.
Codependents expect others to make them happy.
Codependent people who go through recovery are always stunned at how controlling and manipulative (selfish) they have been. Obsession is love to them, and so if they can "fix" someone. they are obsessed with them and feel hurt or rejected if the obsessive attention is not returned!
(Powerful words for me!!)
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: In a better place
Posts: 282
Amen to taking it one moment at a time (a whole day is just too much for me). Maybe why traditional meditation techniques focus on "breath work," paying gentle attention to each breath.
I'm going to take it one breath at a time.
I'm going to take it one breath at a time.
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