Strangest thing just happened...humans never fail to surprise me
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Originally Posted by Tinks65 
ahhhh .... we are so jaded, and yes how could we not be?
I agree that wisdom dictates caution but also it is good to be open to kindness for if we allow the evil that we have encountered to color everything we see, we will lose the ability to see true love and fellowship when offered
Hebrews 13:2
Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it
I have always loved the implications of that verse ... kind of neat to think of it and wonder if we have ever entertained an angel
I agree that wisdom dictates caution but also it is good to be open to kindness for if we allow the evil that we have encountered to color everything we see, we will lose the ability to see true love and fellowship when offered
Hebrews 13:2
Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it
I have always loved the implications of that verse ... kind of neat to think of it and wonder if we have ever entertained an angel
Mine actually says, "Be not forgetful to entertain strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unaware" I just love that.
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I like your idea about dropping in to thank him...and maybe bring a friend too so he knows your are not "alone in a strange city".
Whether it is just kindness or something more, a "thank you for caring" is nice and leaves the risk completely out of it.
And, as a mama I have to say...I am delighted your boy is back in jail where he is safe from himself. Only the mama's here can feel the joy of jail.
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Whether it is just kindness or something more, a "thank you for caring" is nice and leaves the risk completely out of it.
And, as a mama I have to say...I am delighted your boy is back in jail where he is safe from himself. Only the mama's here can feel the joy of jail.
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Originally Posted by Vale
The protocols in place have evolved from eons of experience.
It is not appropriate for a cop to ask you out during a traffic
stop because it places YOU in a position of great disadvantage.
Same goes for anyone in an official position.
I would be very cautious as this most basic of boundaries is
there for a rock solid reason.Distraught Mom,far from home,son
in peril.......the power equation is askew/assymetric. I think we
all know as human beings to be as kind and supportive as we can
be under the circumstances.But not over the line.
And yes,that means that kind souls will have their
feelings hurt from time to time.But when people hit their nadir they
need empathy and understanding......not to get hit on.
It put you in the uncomfortable position of wondering how to
answer a question that was injudicious/ungracious to ask.
It is not appropriate for a cop to ask you out during a traffic
stop because it places YOU in a position of great disadvantage.
Same goes for anyone in an official position.
I would be very cautious as this most basic of boundaries is
there for a rock solid reason.Distraught Mom,far from home,son
in peril.......the power equation is askew/assymetric. I think we
all know as human beings to be as kind and supportive as we can
be under the circumstances.But not over the line.
And yes,that means that kind souls will have their
feelings hurt from time to time.But when people hit their nadir they
need empathy and understanding......not to get hit on.
It put you in the uncomfortable position of wondering how to
answer a question that was injudicious/ungracious to ask.
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I think it's really touching that he offered lunch. If your gut says it was a nice gesture, then it probably was, I think popping in to say thanks is a great alternative to actually agreeing to see the guy.
Sometimes a case just moves you, you know? I mean, we see basically the exact same story over and over and over on this board, but sometimes one will be especially moving for me. I have no idea why exactly, certain triggers that I relate to probably, but it certainly happens that even in a sea of similar stories there are a few that will touch you slightly more. Perhaps you were this same sort of instance for him?
Today I'll celebrate that there are still people out there who care without any expectations.
Sometimes a case just moves you, you know? I mean, we see basically the exact same story over and over and over on this board, but sometimes one will be especially moving for me. I have no idea why exactly, certain triggers that I relate to probably, but it certainly happens that even in a sea of similar stories there are a few that will touch you slightly more. Perhaps you were this same sort of instance for him?
Today I'll celebrate that there are still people out there who care without any expectations.
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It sounds kinda nice, if a little odd, as others have pointed out. Certainly a rare and unusual gesture. I'd be caught off guard, too. Popping in to say a quick thanks does sound like the best way to handle it, if you're so inclined at the time.
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tjp wrote>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
So here it is 8 days later, and I just got a call from that same clerk...just calling because he knew I was upset and wanted to give me all the information he had about son's court dates and contact information for his public attorney, etc. He said he's kept son's file on his desk because he wanted to handle it personally. He said he's been waiting on the attorney information and it just came in....apologized for not calling earlier.
Get this....
He asked if I would be coming to town for son's court appearances and if so, he would like to take me out for lunch or dinner if I wanted because he knew I'd be in a 'strange town' and would be anxious. He gave me his cell number and asked me to call when I know my plans. He just wants to help however he can.
Isn't that crazy? I mean this guy is a public servant, probably handles hundreds of cases a week. He sounds like he's about 25 years old and he knows I'm old enough to be his mother....so it's not like he's hitting on me. I think he's just being NICE!!! That's just bowled me over. I don't even know what to make of it!?!?
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...easy to misinterpret,as your last sentence seems to indicate.
So here it is 8 days later, and I just got a call from that same clerk...just calling because he knew I was upset and wanted to give me all the information he had about son's court dates and contact information for his public attorney, etc. He said he's kept son's file on his desk because he wanted to handle it personally. He said he's been waiting on the attorney information and it just came in....apologized for not calling earlier.
Get this....
He asked if I would be coming to town for son's court appearances and if so, he would like to take me out for lunch or dinner if I wanted because he knew I'd be in a 'strange town' and would be anxious. He gave me his cell number and asked me to call when I know my plans. He just wants to help however he can.
Isn't that crazy? I mean this guy is a public servant, probably handles hundreds of cases a week. He sounds like he's about 25 years old and he knows I'm old enough to be his mother....so it's not like he's hitting on me. I think he's just being NICE!!! That's just bowled me over. I don't even know what to make of it!?!?
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...easy to misinterpret,as your last sentence seems to indicate.
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