FindingErica

Thank you everyone! My AH wrote yesterday and asked to come out again in two weekends, and said WE could go to his mothers and do some fun stuff with the kids. I was annoyed because I thought I had a month before he was coming again. I know he misses his family. The thing is he went off on a drug vacation thinking he wanted to be free, I was devastated but the tide has turned; now I am relishing my newfound freedom and confidence and he is bemoaning the ruins of his life. I can't help him. I work alternating weekends, so instead of getting upset at him I just stated the kids and I have plans we have been looking forward to. I stated which weekends I am working and asked him to choose from those weekends and let me know ahead of time. If I don't set firm boundaries from the get go, he will tread all over them. Also he has to know he is not coming to spend time with me, kids only.