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The Al-Anon meeting will be just fine for you. People there are all affected by someone else's addiction to alcohol or to drugs. Al-Anon meetings have free pamphlets which are really good. I used to carry one in my purse and I read it all the time when I felt weak. It's called "Alcoholism: A Merry-Go-Round Called Denial." It describes the alcoholic (in your case, addict) and the spouse and the problems at work and everything just perfectly. And it tells you what needs to change for there to be any hope. See if you can put your hands on that one. Isolation with an addict makes us come apart. Going to Al-Anon, even if it isn't a perfect meeting, is better than being isolated and shattered. I hope you get to a meeting very soon. |
Originally Posted by outtolunch
(Post 3539857)
He's loaded and driving a weapon made out of tons of steel. And you are in the passenger seat, risking your life, with full knowledge of his condition. In hindsight, it might have been a public service to refuse the ride and instead, called the Police. There is nothing you can do to make this relationship work. You are not that powerful. None of us are. Let's start to apply some logic here. His addiction is not personal. He's not using at you. His brain has been rewired to protect and sustain his addiction. The only person who can get and keep him sober is him. And right now, there is nothing to suggest he has any intention of doing so. That's alright. It is his life to live as he sees fit to do. Only you can decide when you want to stop living this way. |
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