crazybabie

I was so excited about getting the he77 out of my apt. even though I was feeling emotional when I was packing. I went home with my step-mom on Wednesday night after she got off work and returned late Friday evening.

My dad has a health issue that causes him too sleep on the couch and even if I tip toe to the bathroom it wakes him up. I can't put my dad through that. I was already thinking how am I going to tell them it seems like it would be too much of a hardship for them with me there (the place is small) before I said anything my step-mom came out on the patio where I was and asked what financial help I would need in order to stay on my own.

We added up my bills and did the math and I can make my bills just can't get shampoo, etc.. tons of things one needs for a home. So they are gonna supply me that which I am grateful for they can do so without it harming them financially.

The defeated part comes from now I can't save for a better car nor for a divorce. I can only believe that this, is the path for whatever reason God has chosen for right now.

AH, is getting insane with his text always asking where I am etc.. I have just stopped responding my dad and step-mom also think one of the kids will give him the number if I change it like last time.

One Day At A Time I know but right now it is one minute at a time there is more but I am exhausted if I can't work the other out in my mind I will post about it later.

Thanks for a safe place to vent.

Kindeyes

I'm so sorry that arrangement didn't work out, Angie. Don't fret. Perhaps there's a reason that this is going this way.....you just don't understand it yet. Perhaps this is one of those strangely wrapped gifts that Ann always talks about.

As far as the kids giving him your number if you change it.....then change it again, and if necessary, don't give the number to the kids. If they need to contact you, tell them to send an email or something.

Sometimes......we don't have problems.....we just have solutions that we don't like.

One day at a time.......

gentle hugs
ke

crazybabie

I had thought the same thing in the beginning I could picture Ann typing about a strange wrapped gift thanks KE I am sure God has a reason I do trust that.

octoberrain

Sometimes......we don't have problems.....we just have solutions that we don't like.
WOW that was a good one KE.
It hit home for me. I know what I SHOULD do but I am afraid to do it.
Good Luck to you Angie.
I told my AS if he wants to talk to me
CALL ME FROM REHAB!!!

laurie6781

(((((crazybabie)))))

This may just be the 'opportunity' that you needed and you just do not know
it yet.

After you are settled in a place of your own, there may be some part time
work (in addition to your regular job) available that will allow you to save
for an attorney and for a new car.

If you go to Alanon, it would be a 'good' 'problem' to share at a meeting
and the 'solutions' you have found so far and then ask for additional
'solutions'. Do this at several different meetings and you might just be
surprised at the results.

I have done this at both AA and Alanon meetings, and many times I have
received more 'solutions' ie job offer, car repair, legal help, dental help,
at my Alanon meetings than at my AA meetings. It never hurts to try.

I will give just one recent example. It was my previous vehicle, I was
having some serious problems with it and two mechanics had quoted me
over 1,000 to fix it. I live on a fixed income and just didn't have that kind
of money 'up front.' I shared my problem and my immediate 'solution'
(s-i-l) would do what he could to keep it running. Low and behold after
one of my Alanon meetings, a fellow I didn't know very well (he had only
been coming for about 6 weeks due to an A wife) came up to me after the
meeting, and told me the name of his business (a pretty reputable mechanic
shop here in town) told me to bring the car in, he would give me a 'loaner'
fix the car and he would give me a 'reasonable' payment plan. WOW, I
was stunned. I kept that vehicle another 2 years and then because of the
work he did, got a better trade in on it when I bought my Blazer in Oct. of
2010. There again, he 'suggested' which dealer I should go to to look for
a 'newer' used vehicle and even gave me a salesman's name, who turned
out to be an acquaintance from one of my AA meetings, roflmao The
'recovery community' can be a very 'small world', lol

So, this looks like a new door opening for you IMO.

Keep trudgin forward!!!!

Love and hugs,

crazybabie

That"s awesome Laurie, sometimes it amazes me how small this would can be.
I am in my own place now but barely squeaking by which don't misunderstand I am thankful that I can meet my major necessities I am also on a fixed income and my kids are not minors which is good .

I have been going to FA I think I will throw CODA and/or Ala anon in as well.

This may just be the 'opportunity' that you needed and you just do not know
it yet.

I do believe there is a purpose one day at a time right.

Ann

Sweetie, this is strangely wrapped gift #1...with a little help from your family you can support yourself, maybe not in luxury, but safely and in peace.

The rest will come, just take it one day at a time and trust the future to bring you more strangely wrapped gifts...because if you believe it will, it surely will...I promise!!!

Your glass is half full. Today you have "enough". Life will bring you what you need, trust that too.

Hugs and a pat of the back, because I KNOW you can make it, you just need to believe it yourself *throws Mary Tyler Moore hat in the air*.

Hugs

LabLoverOneSon

I just LOVE the attitudes here! Hate the problems though!

Angie, if your phone will use apps, try Silent Time. Its free. You can input a list of numbers you want to always reach you. Then you can set times when only those can get through. The blocked ones won't realize thy are blocked which might only increase tensions. You can see voicemails and texts if you want.

You are a brave woman....one step at a time.

crazybabie

Ann, your right and I didn't even think about that being one of the strangely wrapped gifts.
I am thinking maybe we sometimes miss gifts they have been given yet we don't see them. Thanks, for pointing that out. I suppose the second gift there is I do get to stay on my own and there is a third gift as, I have said before there is marijuana use there and that is their right but I won't be there

Seems the gifts just keep on pouring when I started looking at what you said. I am very lucky for having a dad and step-mom like mine.

LoveMeNow

I am glad you get to keep your independence. And sounds like your home got a good cleaning. Two positives in my book, lol.

Ann

I believe very much that we are led in life, when we allow ourselves to be, and that sometimes we just have to travel in blind faith. I believe that life takes us to where we are supposed to go, perhaps to meet someone we need to meet or see something we need to see or just to find another strangely wrapped blessing of a lesson that will help us on our journey.

You learned that you can love your parents but not live their lifestyle, you can choose your own path without criticizing theirs. And you can survive and thrive.

Strangely wrapped blessings all over the place, and yes, all you have to do is look.

Hugs