WIworrier

As many of you know (and have struggled yourself) that living with a 24/7 addict makes your life INSANE. Well I took the day off tomorrow, and am packing my son's things...he has all kinds of "friends" and "buddies" that he hangs with..So let him live with them 24/7..lets see how long it lasts...
My husband is 100% on board..we are both exhausted and just can't do one more day...
I have said this before....but my husband is SO on board this time....
We let him know on Monday that he had 3 days left here...
So as a nice mom I did his laundry,and have most of it packed. Will move it into his car tomorrow (because he now drives his new motorcycle everywhere!)
Then my husband is going to drive my sons car and park it in the parking lot at his work and let it sit there... He took the insurance off it..Lets see how long it lasts there...(it's worth about $17,000) LOL
I know it will be hard...BUT it can't be any harder than watching him kill himself in my home every day....
Not my problem.... Sigh.....
Will keep you updated....

LoveMeNow

Sounds good to me. lol

Ilovemysonjj

WI Warrior, you will have peace and your son will need to sustain himself. Mine has been out there for almost 60 days, and guess what? Even if he says he is miserable, hates his life, etc., He chose to use and he chose to steal. Remember your son needs to learn no one else is responsible for him.
Take some rest this weekend, please .
Hugs
TT

BeavsDad

Your spouse was "finally on board" back in your 13-Dec-11 post.

You've been on this merry-go-round a long time before that. I rode it for a few years myself.

What will be different this time?

Will you guys create and stick to boundaries?

Has spouse learned anything about addiction and codependency?

If you and hubby aren't on the same page, here's your ticket for the next ride...

If he all of a sudden wants to be clean again on moving day, I highly recommend a sober living environment.

Good luck.

washbe2

Sounds like a good plan to me, especially leaving his car at the parking lot where he works. At least that avoids a face-to-face confrontation again about it. If he is really working, maybe he'll spend his money on a place to stay! Way to go!

Kindeyes

You will all be in my prayers. I understand being fed up and I also understand how hard this is.....even though you're fed up. This is actually the easy part though......the tough part is when he contacts you and begins the manipulations to get you to "play" the game his way.

Praying for you.
gentle hugs
ke

outtolunch

I am sorry to learn your son has lost the use of his arms and legs. What other reason would there be to do his laundry and pack?

Hefty bags, quickly stuffed, are addicts' preferred luggage.

Ceasing to do for others what they can and should be doing for themselves is a giant step towards our own recovery.

WIworrier

"I am sorry to learn your son has lost the use of his arms and legs. What other reason would there be to do his laundry and pack?

Hefty bags, quickly stuffed, are addicts' preferred luggage.

Ceasing to do for others what they can and should be doing for themselves is a giant step towards our own recovery. "



I know...I know...but "easier" for me to have it all done...move the car..and not have to go through the "millionth" time of listening to his "sob story"

So ...on I go....
Working at my own "peace" now....

outtolunch

Yeah, I know. My daughter no longer uses drugs and yet I catch myself in the act of doing what she can and should be doing. Codependency does not stop when sobriety is achieved. This place keeps me aware of my own need to take action and stifle it.

WIworrier

So only ONE day into it...Enjoying the peace and quiet for a bit (as my spouse went up north) ...
That will change tomorrow when my sister arrives for 24 hrs....
I did "hear" that he is staying with a friend for 2 weeks as the friends parents are gone on vacation...Don't care though....
For now...I will enjoy...Ahhhhhhhh....

LoveMeNow

I am sorry to learn your son has lost the use of his arms and legs. What other reason would there be to do his laundry and pack?

Hefty bags, quickly stuffed, are addicts' preferred luggage

OMG!!!!!!! :rotfxko :rotfxko :rotfxko

Diet Coke just came out of my nose.....

Good job WI--enjoy your peace!!

Ann

I know this was hard for you and I am keeping you and your son in my prayers.

Letting go was hard for me too, but saying a prayer and giving my son's care to God has seen me through many scary days.

Hugs from one mamas heart to another's.

washbe2

Okay, so I only did half bad with AS moving camper. I DID do his laundry, but I also DID put it all in Hefty garbage bags.

WIworrier

His clothes were also in LOTS of Hefty bags....
Anyway ending day 5 without him living here....different now...But good....

Vale

>>>>>Hefty bags, quickly stuffed, are addicts' preferred luggage<<<<<<

GOD that was funny! Not the situation.......the phrase!

LoveMeNow

It was!! And it's so true!! When I kicked my husband out, I throw all his stuff in Hefty garbage bags! There was NO way he was taking the family luggage, I wasn't having that. lol