Best Friend's Addiction
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Best Friend's Addiction
Hey there forum, just want to make this short and sweet, due to this being one heck of a LONG Story.
My best friend was introduced to Drugs/Sex(porn)/Alcohol all at age four by their father. Their father left the picture when they were 7 (in 1992), came back once only to leave again in 1999. My friend had a daughter when he was just 17 (in 2002), His daughter is not in the picture now, it only takes one clean drug test to be back in his life. My is/was addicted to Weed/Dust/Alcohol and liked to say what's up to cocaine if at parties.
I tried to help him alot throughout his addiction, he was my co-worker too; I got my dad to sell him a car. Now here comes the end of the line for his job; Towards the end of working for Five Guys, he became a manager, only to realize three weeks later being a manager and quitting drugs at the same time was extremely difficult. One event at the job made him go to the branch manager to ask if he could be demoted so he could focus on quitting drugs, it didn't go well, he was told to eff off, he was fired.
Weeks later he checked himself into rehab, to stay for 30+ days; went to a soberhouse. Problem was he came home two weeks later from the sober house due to too much mayhem (there was a cocaine ring bust that happened the day after he came home!); He seemed good for the time being, seemingly frustrated but was thinking with a clear head and still commuting back and fourth to the rehab classes. Weeks later he began to slip, He confided in me about his slipping, His girlfriend started suspecting he was slipping, she broke up with him on that note; his last bit of sanity. A day later, he crashed his car and was given a D.W.I, to make matters worse his mother's apartment he was living at kicked him out for it.
The next day he checked himself in to inpatient and extended his stay at rehab and went back to the sober house. I didn't hear from him for 2 straight months. I was only updated by his mother; During that time he was given a social worker, He also had a bunch of dental work done, a couple cavities were causing him pain for year, he was given anxiety/depression meds.
Towards the end of his rehab stay, towards graduation, the plan was to go to another sober house, but the rehab sprung a $300 fee in order to get in; the day after graduation, the rehab sprung having a job as a second requirement to get into the second sober house.
A month later, I finally get to hear from my best friend, who was doing only "alright". He has no job, no car, no money, no home. He's been living here and there, alot of the time its been a tent in the woods! But the main good thing is, he isn't on drugs!
My best friend was introduced to Drugs/Sex(porn)/Alcohol all at age four by their father. Their father left the picture when they were 7 (in 1992), came back once only to leave again in 1999. My friend had a daughter when he was just 17 (in 2002), His daughter is not in the picture now, it only takes one clean drug test to be back in his life. My is/was addicted to Weed/Dust/Alcohol and liked to say what's up to cocaine if at parties.
I tried to help him alot throughout his addiction, he was my co-worker too; I got my dad to sell him a car. Now here comes the end of the line for his job; Towards the end of working for Five Guys, he became a manager, only to realize three weeks later being a manager and quitting drugs at the same time was extremely difficult. One event at the job made him go to the branch manager to ask if he could be demoted so he could focus on quitting drugs, it didn't go well, he was told to eff off, he was fired.
Weeks later he checked himself into rehab, to stay for 30+ days; went to a soberhouse. Problem was he came home two weeks later from the sober house due to too much mayhem (there was a cocaine ring bust that happened the day after he came home!); He seemed good for the time being, seemingly frustrated but was thinking with a clear head and still commuting back and fourth to the rehab classes. Weeks later he began to slip, He confided in me about his slipping, His girlfriend started suspecting he was slipping, she broke up with him on that note; his last bit of sanity. A day later, he crashed his car and was given a D.W.I, to make matters worse his mother's apartment he was living at kicked him out for it.
The next day he checked himself in to inpatient and extended his stay at rehab and went back to the sober house. I didn't hear from him for 2 straight months. I was only updated by his mother; During that time he was given a social worker, He also had a bunch of dental work done, a couple cavities were causing him pain for year, he was given anxiety/depression meds.
Towards the end of his rehab stay, towards graduation, the plan was to go to another sober house, but the rehab sprung a $300 fee in order to get in; the day after graduation, the rehab sprung having a job as a second requirement to get into the second sober house.
A month later, I finally get to hear from my best friend, who was doing only "alright". He has no job, no car, no money, no home. He's been living here and there, alot of the time its been a tent in the woods! But the main good thing is, he isn't on drugs!
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I love my best friend so much, and I couldn't stand seeing him use. Early on knowing him, I didn't know about his addiction, I had only thought he was a guy who liked his weed every so often; come to realize he'd smoke weed and dust everyday.
He's staying at another friend's house this week, its better than the woods I say! Still I worry alot for him.
He's staying at another friend's house this week, its better than the woods I say! Still I worry alot for him.
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Just a gentle caution that you keep in mind that addicts lie, and his version of his recent past may not be completely honest. It's the disease, it makes all addicts liars.
So keep good boundaries and take good care of your own needs while he takes care of his. He has a world of recovering addicts to reach out to, and they are the only ones who really know how to support him right now.
It's good that you care, from a safe distance. He's lucky you wish the best for him.
So keep good boundaries and take good care of your own needs while he takes care of his. He has a world of recovering addicts to reach out to, and they are the only ones who really know how to support him right now.
It's good that you care, from a safe distance. He's lucky you wish the best for him.
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I do apologize for double posting. I'm such the constant worrier for my friend, even though he's "okay", and that I can call/text them now; My nerves are just shot going through what if's, and just alot of worries.
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