Ended it, Part 5: Closure
 

Short recap: Broke up with XABF last week after he was a mean, drunken jerk (day before my birthday I might add). He texted an apology Friday, no contact since. It's over.


Had a long talk with my preacher friend today. Had some spirituality questions about forgiveness, etc. He helped me come up with a way to accept XABF's apology/get closure for myself, and I had to return his key anyway. Here is what I'm sending:

B:

I wanted to tell you I got your messages Friday. I was moving and didn’t know how to respond. I guess I still don’t. Your words and behavior Wednesday and Thursday (not to mention the timing — before my birthday) really confused and hurt me.

That being said, I do appreciate your apology, and I wholeheartedly accept it.

I’m sorry for my own mistakes. I’m so sad that things didn’t work between us, as I very much valued our love and friendship. I will always be grateful to you and your family for your kindness and generosity. As we close this chapter, I sincerely wish you all the best with your next.


J

I feel better owning my feelings, my faults and my own closure.

Thanks for listening!

That's great and to the point. No blame. I might use it w my ex! Thanks!

Sent it off, plot it in the bin right as the post office was closing up before the holiday! I still feel sad, but a bit lighter.