GoldfishSyn

A few days ago I posted 'How do I make him leave?' about my AH. Well I must have left it open on the computer because he read it today and packed some of his things and left. I know it's what I wanted but it feels so bad. He said he didn't know where he was going and would probably sleep in his car. I let him go even though every ounce of me wanted to cling to him. I really hope this will be what he needs to finally get help and surrender control. I feel so awful, lonely, and worried. I read the brain chemistry of loved ones sticky. I think I'm going to need to do that multiple times per day to keep from begging him to come back. I just feel so sad.

Skye10

I am kind of going through the same thing right now. It is difficult to finally know its over. Its been about 5 weeks since I broke up with my exA, and I feel like I haven't seen him in years...I know it will get better and easier as time goes by. Just keep posting and know that there is a lot more out there then living like this with someone in active addiction.

Kindeyes

I don't think it's ever "good" when a relationship is ending or estranged....but sometimes it's necessary. I'm sorry your heart is hurting. I hope you'll try to keep yourself busy and embrace doing some things that you've always wanted to do but couldn't.

Take care of you.

gentle hugs
ke

outtolunch

May I reframe this, please.

I really hope this will be what you need to finally get help and surrender control.

Back when, I was as sick, if not sicker than my daughter who was an active heroin addict. I say sicker cause I could not blame my reactions on substance.
It came from within.

Living with someone in active addiction is living in Hell-o. I fooled myself that it was not so bad and redefined normal. So much of what I did I did with the intent that it would cause my daughter to hit her bottom and seek recovery. It was the opposite of determining my own bottom- what I was willing to accept because I am worth it.

Your husband is not competent to parent. Can you consider making this your mantra?

GoldfishSyn

Thank you, you are so right! There I go focusing on him again. Thanks for reeling me in!