hope2be

Haven't posted in a while, but I've been reading the post here on SR for encouragement and wisdom..

Well, the house sale is going through in about 6 weeks. I feel disconnected from myself at times..like watching my life unfold from a distance. I don't know if this is bad or good?

All 3 of my ACs living with me are aware of the impending house sale. We don't talk much about it and I really don't want to. There hasn't been any big drama around here and that's not "normal". Maybe it's because I have been focusing on myself more than them lately.

I have bittersweet feelings about all of this, but in my head I know this is the right thing to do. Some days I feel very exicited about it and some days I am downright petrified. My biggest concern at present is choosing where I want to live now. I guess I've been taking care of everybody else for so long, making choices just for myself is truly feels like I'm treading new waters and I know it's time for me to sink or swim.

I have good supportive people around me who are helping me through my bad days when I'm scared of the unknown. That's new for me too. I've always had trouble asking for help, because I never really trusted anyone (ACOA issues).

I am glad I have my SR family and this board to come to for support. This journey is not easy, but it is better than the life I had before, even though it feels so foreign right now.

Keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers and asking the same from you,
Hope

laurie6781

Good for you!!!!!!!

As to you A children, they know the move out date, what they do about it is up to them. When the closing get closer, you may want to post that any thing of theirs not moved out by midnight (the day before the closing) will be moved out by the sheriff on such and such date, I think the REFRIGERATOR door would be a good place to post the notice, lol

As to you, WOW look at all the choices. You can look at Condos, Town Houses, a smaller house, or just rent for a few months until you do decide what you want to live in next. Or you may even get adventurous and look at some new areas of the country to reside in.

Just take it a day at a time. Start packing your 'stuff' a box or two a day and the job won't seem so overwhelming (this from someone who has moved many times and learned some tricks, lmao).

Anyway, congrats on your positive progress.

Love and hugs,

Ann

When you find your new home, make a special place perhaps by a sunny window, that is all yours. A place where you can dream, and rest, and let your new dreams unfold.

New beginnings can be scary, but they always bring special blessings that you would never have found if you had not gone where life leads you.

You will be okay. Life is good.

Hugs

KuanYin

Yes, congrats! Suggest you look for a very, very small place, room enough for only one person - YOU! That way there's no chance of someone just crashing on the sofa for "one night", or staying in the guest room for a week or two. BTDT!!! And don't leave a forwarding address. It's very empowering. My husband chose not to let his two AD's know where we live when we moved recently, and it's a great relief to him. Oh, and we intentionally live in a small place so no one can ever live with us!

Kindeyes

Beginnings are sometimes scary but the can also be freeing and exhilarating. It's amazing to me how much fear can dominate my life. When I turn my fear into faith, it's amazing how much better I feel.

Have faith.....you're going to be ok.

gentle hugs
ke