Advice needed for Cocaine Addicted Husband

Old 01-13-2012, 09:20 PM
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Im so sorry. Been there. My ex just told me on January 1st that our marriage was "toxic" and just sent an email yesterday saying he lost passion for everything (including me) back in 2007. That was a year before we got pregnant!

Don't let him "play you". He is just lashing out at you probably because he feels so crappy about himself.

Stay stong and protect your daughter!
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Old 01-14-2012, 04:11 AM
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Addicts are master manipulators, thet deflect, they twist words around, they threaten, they lie....that is what they do. Don't let his idle threats keep you from doing the right thing for your daughter.
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Old 01-14-2012, 04:26 AM
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Like everyone has said here, addicts are manipulators and if you stand up for yourself, call them out and put some of your boundaries up, they snap. My XABF was the most verbally abusive individual and then could turn around the next day and be the sweetest person you ever met. It was really confusing back then to be in the middle of the mood swings. I often thought he had some personality disorder. It was hard to figure out if it were a disorder, addiction, a combination of both or if he was just a jerk.

I would do anything to keep your daughter safe. I finally had to end things when I realized I had to protect my daughter. Someone bringing vicodin and xanax into my house could have harmed my daughter. What if she found one on the ground, thought it was candy and ate it? Those thoughts were enough for me to leave him for good. No one is more important than my daughter, not him and not any other person.

I am sorry you are going through this. The emotional and verbal abuse just get worse. Trust me. It took me some time to get my self esteem back and I'm still working on it. You will get through it too.
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Old 01-16-2012, 05:32 AM
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Thanks... @blakemadison yes! it's like he has two personalities! It is unbelievable... I'm working on getting him out. He has nowhere to go at this point. Yesterday I had to leave work because he was calling & yelling... I couldn't bear the thought that my daughter was hearing him ranting and raving about things that happened months ago... & the threats... I was very close to getting a police escort! I came home and he was as sweet as can be... it is mind boggling. At least now I'm at the point where I no longer cry and wait up for him all night and call him endlessly. I simply go to sleep... no tears anymore... just anger and remorse at all he has taken from me. It is the past 6 months or so that I am really putting up my boundaries and yes he snaps. I am getting stronger by the day. Thank You!
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