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Old 01-15-2012, 05:44 PM
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I'm doing all that I can from my end. My AS lives in another country, my other sister lives in the same country as AS but a different state. She knows first hand because she has seen AS with drugs in front of the kid, and apparently her word is not hard enough evidence. Our Family friend who has also seen first hand, is the only one who has contact with her but is unwilling to talk. All I have is the emails but who knows if that is enough. They are still assessing the info- how long does it take to read emails? so frustrated.
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Old 01-15-2012, 05:51 PM
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Speedy, thank you so much for sharing your stories with us. This is what I fear for my nephew. Even if my AS goes to rehab, I fear she will always relapse. She has this attraction to danger and people who are just bad influences. I want to spare this child from what you've gone through. He already will never know who his father is because his mom doesn't even know. I haven't heard from CPS or my AS yet. But apparently she's signed up for classes and so forth cos she knows we've reported her.
Thats great news that she has to answer to someone.Its great that you are there in the life of your nephew I hope she finds her way.Some day someone will thank you for doing your part.The biggest issue I hate about addiction is we can pick our friends but we can't pick who is in our family that makes our lives unmanagable.
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Old 01-15-2012, 06:09 PM
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my AS and her 3yr old has just informed me that if CPS calls her she will state the facts but will say that she has NOT witnessed any direct harm toward the toddler that warrents him being taken away!!!
She hasn't heard the 'verbal abuse'? Well I hope she told you about that in on of those emails you mentioned. Highlight everything that you send to the police and CPS, especially everything she sent you in emails. That way they will see that she is lying.

J M H O

I know how frustrated you are, doing something like this long distance and especially out of country is horrible. We are walking with you.

Is your AS in the U.S.? or in a different country?

Love and hugs,
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Old 01-15-2012, 06:54 PM
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Originally Posted by laurie6781 View Post
She hasn't heard the 'verbal abuse'? Well I hope she told you about that in on of those emails you mentioned. Highlight everything that you send to the police and CPS, especially everything she sent you in emails. That way they will see that she is lying.

J M H O

I know how frustrated you are, doing something like this long distance and especially out of country is horrible. We are walking with you.

Is your AS in the U.S.? or in a different country?

Love and hugs,
I am in the US, AS is in another country. I have all the emails from this friend. In one email she says she's so concerned for this child because he showing signs that he is not normal. In another email she says: [drugs is her escape route. She looks it, sounds it, speaks it- she is an addict but in denial. [/B]
She's been manipulated by AS, I just hope she comes to her senses soon,
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Old 01-15-2012, 10:20 PM
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It still astounds me that your friend will not stick up for a defenseless child, yet she will let this cycle continue to protect the addict. That's amazing to me.

I'm sorry for your frustration, I am feeling it too and I don't even know the people...
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Old 01-16-2012, 06:19 PM
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The friend thinks she can save AS. She is the only decent person in AS and nephew's life and I am so grateful for that. I think she feels that AS just needs good people in her life to give her support. Problem is, AS drives people away with her addiction and actions.
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Old 01-18-2012, 06:25 PM
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There is no question you are doing the right thing!!! Depending on how overworked your CPS is, they often look for certain words to determine if they must respond to a call, and how urgently they must respond. It is important to stress that you believe a child is in "imminent danger". Many times they will explicitly ask you this question and, if you say no, that basically gives them authority to put it behind other cases where people said yes! If a child is living with an addict they ARE in imminent danger. If you see the child and see any signs of abuse be sure to document -- take a photo and, if you can, take the child in to a hospital. If you are in an urban area many large hospitals have an on-call CPS team that will do emergency assessments. Good luck.
Thanks so much for your suggestions!!!..That's what we're going to do, take the child to the hospital. My AS passed the drug test because she knew it was coming.
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Old 01-21-2012, 11:12 AM
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There is no question you are doing the right thing!!! Depending on how overworked your CPS is, they often look for certain words to determine if they must respond to a call, and how urgently they must respond. It is important to stress that you believe a child is in "imminent danger". Many times they will explicitly ask you this question and, if you say no, that basically gives them authority to put it behind other cases where people said yes! If a child is living with an addict they ARE in imminent danger. If you see the child and see any signs of abuse be sure to document -- take a photo and, if you can, take the child in to a hospital. If you are in an urban area many large hospitals have an on-call CPS team that will do emergency assessments. Good luck.
We followed your advice and took him to the hospital for an evaluation. Sure enough he shows signs of psychological and emotional abuse. The doctors and social worker are going to help us get custody and get AS into rehab!!! CPS will be going there!!! Thank you sooooo much. We had to plan this out so carefully and your advice made it possible. Please pray for this to go well.
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Old 01-21-2012, 11:18 AM
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(((Sister))) - SOOO glad that things finally seem to be moving in a positive direction. I don't think I've posted on this thread, before, but have definitely been reading along and sending prayers.

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Old 01-21-2012, 01:37 PM
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Thank you for not giving up ((Sister77)). On to a better life for him, hopefully.
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Old 01-21-2012, 03:12 PM
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Oh boy! I know firsthand how damaging it is to your psych living with an addict and I was an adult! I didn't have children in my relationship for just that reason - I kept thinking how I couldn't handle it myself as an adult, so (1) what sort of mother would I be to the child I so badly wanted to have, and (2) how could a child handle what an adult who has other life perspectives and mature thought can NOT handle?
I also experienced no physical violence, but emotional abuse. And just the "vibe" of drugs is enough to send me off these days. I can feel it even just walking past addicts in the street. It feels dark and scary.
It really upsets me to hear of children living like! Your sister is being really selfish and putting her addiction first, which is the common trait of addicts, and the family friend is allowing herself to be manipulated. If the AS truly does love her son, she'll understand eventually that it's not the people taking her son away who are the enemy, it's herself being her own worst enemy!!!! And in the long run she'll be grateful her son was rescued, and maybe she will begin the hard work of getting better.
(((SpeedyJason))) I've read a few of your posts and think you are amazing! You came to your own rescue and to that of your sister. You took on an adult role when you were still a child. I just wanted to say to you too that the feelings you describe yourself being left with are how I feel as an adult after such a relationship!
Believe in yourself. There will be a gift out of all of this xxxx
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Old 01-22-2012, 07:07 PM
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I am so angry right now!! So CPS informed us that the social worker had no right to tell them to go check on AS and newphew and they are still "assessing" the situation!!! WTF! How messed up is this system???... If a doctor and a social can see the abuse how can they when they haven't even been to see for themselves???...So PISSED. Just needed to vent...
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Old 01-22-2012, 08:42 PM
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The system is very messed up... I'm so sorry. You're doing the right thing though. Keep it up and eventually someone will listen.

We had a family in the neighborhood with kids that were bring neglected. CPS took the daughter away but left the boy with the parents for another year and a half. They finally got sick of hearing from me and eventually removed the boy too. He contacted me on Facebook not too long ago (he's now 22) thanking me for looking out for him. He's doing well, will be graduating from college this year!

My thoughts are with you.
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Old 01-22-2012, 08:58 PM
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The system is very messed up... I'm so sorry. You're doing the right thing though. Keep it up and eventually someone will listen.

We had a family in the neighborhood with kids that were bring neglected. CPS took the daughter away but left the boy with the parents for another year and a half. They finally got sick of hearing from me and eventually removed the boy too. He contacted me on Facebook not too long ago (he's now 22) thanking me for looking out for him. He's doing well, will be graduating from college this year!

My thoughts are with you.
The other problem is the social worker talked to the after hours CPS agent, the agent who is assigned to the case was off today and the next charge was the one who told us that the social worker had no right telling us that they were going there today. It's way too disconnected. But you've given me hope and I will continue to fight for this child's safety.
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Old 01-30-2012, 11:00 PM
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Update

So we heard from CPS, they are finally getting drug and alcohol counselors involved to get her into rehab. At least we have some progress now....
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Old 01-30-2012, 11:08 PM
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That's great! I've heard you have to just keep calling so they can build a case. Sorry that any child has to be in the position but glad you are there to care.
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Old 01-31-2012, 07:54 AM
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I think she's heard from them cos she's unfriend me on Facebook.
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Old 02-01-2012, 06:37 PM
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So AS has updated all her fb friends that she does not want her so called family to contact her because she has been reported to CPS. She goes on to say how she has no family no support and is better than 2 parents. She also says that she will run away if anyone tries to take her son. I am worried about her state of mind and what she will do. CPS has their protocols and I'm glad they got in contact with her but how much longer do we wait in fear????
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