Just saw my AD's hooker ad
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Just saw my AD's hooker ad
I was just informed that my beautiful 18 yo AD has a prostitution ad all over the internet. She's working for an escort service. I am sick to my stomach! Apparently two near death overdoses and hooking aren't her low. I had to look at my baby's naked body on the internet!! I texted my ex with the links and his response was "ok." I wonder why she has daddy issues.
She was to start college Wednesday, and she didn't go.
My heart is broken.
She was to start college Wednesday, and she didn't go.
My heart is broken.
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I'm really sorry that you had to see and know about your daughters
pictures. I can only offer you ((hugs))..I accidentally came across
some pictures my son sent on the internet to whomever..I did get
sick..not something a parent wants to share seeing their adult children
naked or otherwise...
It is a sad time for you..please find all the support you can to help you
to walk through this.
My prayers are also with you at this time.
Try to love her memories right now.
lauren
pictures. I can only offer you ((hugs))..I accidentally came across
some pictures my son sent on the internet to whomever..I did get
sick..not something a parent wants to share seeing their adult children
naked or otherwise...
It is a sad time for you..please find all the support you can to help you
to walk through this.
My prayers are also with you at this time.
Try to love her memories right now.
lauren
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((kk))
how heartbreaking ~
I know it breaks my heart when people use the term "crack *****"!! If it's someone I know, I ask them please not to use that term. I say "that woman that you are talking about was once someone's little princess, someone's little girl, someone's innocent little daughter ~ and then a horrible disease took over their life. Please refer to them as an addict. " I then ask them "can you look at a sweet little 5 yr old girl, dancing like Cinderella, playing barbies and call them a "crack *****" ~ well to the parents of addict daughters - that's how we still see them, as our little babies, even if we know and accept the choices they make today.
So anyway, sorry for the ramble just struggle with this too for my own daughter ~
prayers of comfort for you and hope that your daughter will find a way to a healthy life soon.
PINK HUGS,
Rita
how heartbreaking ~
I know it breaks my heart when people use the term "crack *****"!! If it's someone I know, I ask them please not to use that term. I say "that woman that you are talking about was once someone's little princess, someone's little girl, someone's innocent little daughter ~ and then a horrible disease took over their life. Please refer to them as an addict. " I then ask them "can you look at a sweet little 5 yr old girl, dancing like Cinderella, playing barbies and call them a "crack *****" ~ well to the parents of addict daughters - that's how we still see them, as our little babies, even if we know and accept the choices they make today.
So anyway, sorry for the ramble just struggle with this too for my own daughter ~
prayers of comfort for you and hope that your daughter will find a way to a healthy life soon.
PINK HUGS,
Rita
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A friend of mine, who obviously visits escort ads, saw it and called me. To know that dirty old men will be sleeping with my princess, so she can buy Roxycodone, sickens me. Her ads and photos of her face and body will forever be on the internet. She already has Hep C, and I know that if a man offers her extra to not use a condom, she'll do it. So far, she's escaped HIV, but it's on her horizon now. Her addiction is so powerful that she's willing to kill herself or ruin her future for it. Nonsensical at best.
The one site that she's on, men review their experiences in GRAPHIC detail. Now, these pigs will be discussing my lil girl like she's a worthless tramp. I abhor violence, but I want to hurt anyone who touches her.
I told her before she left that if I find out that she's engaging in illegal activities, I will try and get her arrested. I mean what I say and say what I mean!
I wonder how many other men that I know or work with will be seeing her ad online?
I need to share this at my Al Anon meeting tonight, but I don't want people to know.. I'm hurt, saddened and embarrassed.
The one site that she's on, men review their experiences in GRAPHIC detail. Now, these pigs will be discussing my lil girl like she's a worthless tramp. I abhor violence, but I want to hurt anyone who touches her.
I told her before she left that if I find out that she's engaging in illegal activities, I will try and get her arrested. I mean what I say and say what I mean!
I wonder how many other men that I know or work with will be seeing her ad online?
I need to share this at my Al Anon meeting tonight, but I don't want people to know.. I'm hurt, saddened and embarrassed.
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Now that you have learned this, you may want to consider going "no contact" with anything to do with her on the internet; I cannot imagine what it would do to your mind to read more about her on the internet. You know all that you need to know, already. Every bit more information you would see is another that you will never get out of your mind, so why put it there?
Said with compassion,
CLMI
Said with compassion,
CLMI
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I had a friend in elementary school who took a different path than I did in HS. She ended up on heroin and married another heroin user, and they used and hurt everyone they ever knew for years and years. They stole, broke the law, got beat up up, beat each other up, had health crises, alienated everyone decent in their lives, ran out their families who finally every last one of them no matter how codependent turned their backs on them, they lived homeless and in filthy abandoned buildings, etc... One of the things she did was prostitute herself. She was just a plain old street walker with her husband as her pimp. In a bad part of town.
And in her late 20s, Lori got pregnant, and stopped cold turkey. She stayed stopped although her husband continued until his death in his late 30s. For her son, she pulled her life together, got menial jobs, cheap housing. Her family still wouldn't have anything to do with her, they'd heard too many promises, but she used the resources the Recovery community had to offer and worked hard, and raised her son, who was born with autism on minimum wage jobs.
Finally she got a job of all things as a bank teller, and worked her way up to making about $40K. It took another 10 years for her family to be open to repairing the relationships. Her son is doing well, she got married again about 5 years ago, and went well.
Some people do pull themselves back up from the mess of their lives. She's been clean and reliable for 20 years now.
I am so sorry for your pain, and pray deeply that your daughter will find her way the way my schoolmate did. It can happen. There still can be a happy ending to all this. <<<<<hugs>>>>>>>
And in her late 20s, Lori got pregnant, and stopped cold turkey. She stayed stopped although her husband continued until his death in his late 30s. For her son, she pulled her life together, got menial jobs, cheap housing. Her family still wouldn't have anything to do with her, they'd heard too many promises, but she used the resources the Recovery community had to offer and worked hard, and raised her son, who was born with autism on minimum wage jobs.
Finally she got a job of all things as a bank teller, and worked her way up to making about $40K. It took another 10 years for her family to be open to repairing the relationships. Her son is doing well, she got married again about 5 years ago, and went well.
Some people do pull themselves back up from the mess of their lives. She's been clean and reliable for 20 years now.
I am so sorry for your pain, and pray deeply that your daughter will find her way the way my schoolmate did. It can happen. There still can be a happy ending to all this. <<<<<hugs>>>>>>>
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( sigh)
I cannot imagine how heartbreaking this is for you, right now.
Will you consider therapy? EMDR ( really kookie stuff) therapy has a solid track record of helping people cope with/disengage from traumatic stress.
I cannot imagine how heartbreaking this is for you, right now.
Will you consider therapy? EMDR ( really kookie stuff) therapy has a solid track record of helping people cope with/disengage from traumatic stress.
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I absolutely will not read the posts about her or look at her ads again. It will kill me and I don't know what I'd do to the men. I have a rage right now that's off the charts. Dark, self destructive thoughts.. I am currently drowning my sorrows in massive heaps of Thai food!!
Thank you...
Thank you...
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Kittenkaboodle, I am so very sorry you ever had to see anything like that (((((hugs))))).
It is one thing to suspect it, but must be beyond awful to see stuff like that firsthand. I don't understand why anyone thought it a good idea to tell you about it.
What helped me some was to remember that my AS is on his own path and that I cannot see into the future to know what is the best path for him, but that I had to trust that it will all work out for the best.
I will keep you and your daughter in my deepest prayers.
It is one thing to suspect it, but must be beyond awful to see stuff like that firsthand. I don't understand why anyone thought it a good idea to tell you about it.
What helped me some was to remember that my AS is on his own path and that I cannot see into the future to know what is the best path for him, but that I had to trust that it will all work out for the best.
I will keep you and your daughter in my deepest prayers.
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Am experiencing the same thing with my oldest daughter.Havent seen any naked pictures of her but shes pretty much advertising to everyone on Facebook that shes available for whatever.drugs,sex,drinking,etc.
Her mother condones the behavior by saying shes an adult.have tried to talk to my daughter about this and she says that shes just having fun.Shes only 19 and in a group home for drugs,alcohol.so I know what your going through.Just keep praying for her.
And always remember that we all want the addict to change but they have to want it to.
My prayers are with you and your daughter.
Her mother condones the behavior by saying shes an adult.have tried to talk to my daughter about this and she says that shes just having fun.Shes only 19 and in a group home for drugs,alcohol.so I know what your going through.Just keep praying for her.
And always remember that we all want the addict to change but they have to want it to.
My prayers are with you and your daughter.
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Kit, try not to visualize what your daughter is doing. I know my son has done some terrible things in his addiction too, and I refuse to give 5 minutes thought to it because it won't change anything and it will only make me sick.
My friends daughter was an addict from the time she was 16 until about 25, and she too sold herself for drugs. But she stopped, and turned her life around through hard work and a lot of therapy. She too married (a man who knew her past but "saw" her present) and has lived happily every after since.
These girls are our daughters, our sisters, our friends, and they don't want to be doing what they do. They are just lost in their addiction and hopefully one day will find their way back.
Keeping your daughter in my prayers, and you too, it's heart-breaking to be the mother of an addict.
Hugs
My friends daughter was an addict from the time she was 16 until about 25, and she too sold herself for drugs. But she stopped, and turned her life around through hard work and a lot of therapy. She too married (a man who knew her past but "saw" her present) and has lived happily every after since.
These girls are our daughters, our sisters, our friends, and they don't want to be doing what they do. They are just lost in their addiction and hopefully one day will find their way back.
Keeping your daughter in my prayers, and you too, it's heart-breaking to be the mother of an addict.
Hugs
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I am so sorry for the heartache you are feeling. I can't imagine seeing those things on the internet.
My son is an addict. He has been involved in some pretty horrific situations but I can't dwell on it because my mother's heart just can't. I don't condone what he is doing with his life but I have no control over it. I'm sure that some people want to blame or shame me about my son's addiction......but that is their issue to deal with.....not mine. Life has a bad habit of teaching us all lessons that we wish we didn't have to learn.
Take care of you. You and your dear daughter will be in my prayers today.
gentle hugs
ke
My son is an addict. He has been involved in some pretty horrific situations but I can't dwell on it because my mother's heart just can't. I don't condone what he is doing with his life but I have no control over it. I'm sure that some people want to blame or shame me about my son's addiction......but that is their issue to deal with.....not mine. Life has a bad habit of teaching us all lessons that we wish we didn't have to learn.
Take care of you. You and your dear daughter will be in my prayers today.
gentle hugs
ke
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kittenkaboodle, I am so sorry for your heartbreak
My AD told me when I wouldn't let her live here after she got out of jail that she would be doing the same thing. if she's not already selling herself, she will be soon.
I went to an AA meeting a few days ago, and the topic was HOPE- that nothing is hopeless. It's hard to hold on to that, but I don't know what else there is to hold onto.
You are in my thoughts and hopes.
My AD told me when I wouldn't let her live here after she got out of jail that she would be doing the same thing. if she's not already selling herself, she will be soon.
I went to an AA meeting a few days ago, and the topic was HOPE- that nothing is hopeless. It's hard to hold on to that, but I don't know what else there is to hold onto.
You are in my thoughts and hopes.
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