A.A. meetings just don't seem right (to me)
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A.A. meetings just don't seem right (to me)
Before my wife went into rehab this time I went to a few meetings with her. Not only did I see a good portion of the people there drunk/drinking. But I noticed a lot of people trying to hook up in a sexual/dating way.
I said something to my wife, she confirmed. She told me many men approached her, rubbed her leg etc. I asked why she didn't stop them, her response was it's harmless.
Really? I believe those meetings are supposed to encourage sobriety, not a love (or whatever) connection. Is she just going to the wrong meetings, or is this the norm?
I said something to my wife, she confirmed. She told me many men approached her, rubbed her leg etc. I asked why she didn't stop them, her response was it's harmless.
Really? I believe those meetings are supposed to encourage sobriety, not a love (or whatever) connection. Is she just going to the wrong meetings, or is this the norm?
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Originally Posted by PaperDolls 
NOT the norm for sure .... she should find a new meeting.
Are you attending Alanon for YOUR recovery?
Are you attending Alanon for YOUR recovery?
I actually did go a few times. It wound up being a small group of women. I didn't like it much, it was very depresing.
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Originally Posted by cynical one
I would suggest that she try either a beginners meeting or a women’s meeting. Both can be found at the Babcock Presbyterian Church down on Loch Raven.
I'm guessing you're from my area. Have you experienced this type of behavior? I can't believe it's isolated to this one meeting.
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Been going to meetings for 7 years and have never experienced anyone "rubbing my leg" or seen anyone openly drinking! Try another meeting please!!
I went into AA pretty young and ya, there were guys with time creeping on me but I stuck with the women and male oldtimers who were vouched for by women.
As for the drunk drinking, I've seen many many people f-d up at meetings over the year, but they can keep coming back until they get it. Only req for membership is the desire to stop... This is still relatively rare however...
I went into AA pretty young and ya, there were guys with time creeping on me but I stuck with the women and male oldtimers who were vouched for by women.
As for the drunk drinking, I've seen many many people f-d up at meetings over the year, but they can keep coming back until they get it. Only req for membership is the desire to stop... This is still relatively rare however...
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It is never appropriate for anyone to rub someone's leg. And for most, it's not harmless.
You wife will have to decide of this is the right meeting for her, but I know there will be many other options available if she wants to change meetings.
I hope you find some Al-anon meetings for you, those meetings have helped many of us find our balance again.
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You wife will have to decide of this is the right meeting for her, but I know there will be many other options available if she wants to change meetings.
I hope you find some Al-anon meetings for you, those meetings have helped many of us find our balance again.
Hugs
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